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Using higher perception to help you through life's challenges. Find out more...01/07/08: "Connecting with our Twin Flame..."
Submitted by Chris Bourne on 2 July, 2008 - 09:22.
Hi everyone, warm greetings to you all!
Judging by the wonderful feedback we got in response to our last newsletter Soul Mates and Twin Flames, it seems a lot of hearts were touched. We've had some truly wonderful sharings from people beginning to experience this magical phenomenon for themselves. Of course we can all experience our Twin Flame if we apply ourselves in the right way and most importantly suspend disbelief! We've been asked to share a little more about our experiences and thoughts on how to connect with our Twin Flame, so here goes...
From the place of inner completeness
To begin with, here's a brief reminder from the last newsletter of what the Twin Flame phenomenon is all about...
- "When a soul comes into being, it divides notionally into two. One half incarnates to garner life experiences and the other remains on the astral planes close to the Source acting as a mirror to the other so that it may learn how best to shine the inner light.
The purpose of twin flames is balance; they are directly complimentary to one another. This polar equation is necessary to create momentum and direction on the path of a soul. Without it, our journey would likely be random, chaotic and meaningless or even non-existent. Our twin flame draws us back to the source like a universal magnet; it is our memory of the original condition of absolute completeness expressed through the finest quintessence of form; she is almost, but not quite, completely formless."
For countless incarnations our Twin Flame has acted through the weave of life creating a rich tapestry of experience for us to learn and grow. Quite frequently, where we have fallen in love, it is likely we've fallen in love with the object of our love (a physical person perhaps) rather than the subject (divine union with our Twin Flame within). So quite often we may have confused and dis-empowered ourselves by handing the keys to inner completeness to someone else, thinking they were the reason for our sense of inner joy when in fact all along we have possessed that blissful completeness inside ourselves.
I'd like to be clear though, I'm not saying we shouldn't be in relationship with another soul! I'm saying that if instead of losing ourselves in that relationship, we can see our partner as a divine reflection of the Twin Flame, then we take back our power and the sense of joy and self love builds within...
- Divine union is certainly not co-dependency; it arises from whole and complete individuals sharing love together.
Of course the amazing magic of the Twin Flame relationship is that it can also be experienced without a partner. Following our last newsletter, one Openhander told me how she was now seeing beautiful reflections of her Twin Flame in men all around her and whereas previously she'd felt somewhat alone, now it was helping her to build a sense of joy within and not need a partner at all. You might also be interested to read this personal sharing from Lesley, a close friend of Openhand...click here
So how might we all experience this wonderful phenomenon?
Here are a few tips and advice on how to proceed...
- Surrendered solitude: It begins first by letting go of the perceived need for a partner - this may not be an easy one I know (!!!) but we really need to empower ourselves by learning to be awesomely okay in our own solitude. It will help to spend more time alone, perhaps in meditation, walking in nature or dining alone in town (yes it can be a bit of a button pusher!).
- Become the Observer: Especially whilst alone, become more and more the Observer of both life around us and our inner feelings in response to external events. 'People Watching' is a good one - looking for the beauty in all and especially suspending any tendency to judge. The key is to always ask, "where is the beauty in this person and how do they make me feel inside?"
- Invite the connection: The connection to our Twin Flame can begin by inviting it to happen. It is greatly facilitated by going inwards and simply saying words to the effect..."I am now ready to make our connection, I invite you to reveal yourself through the circumstances of my life." It will help by conducting an energetic ceremony to mark the event - perhaps an evening alone playing your favourite music or watching a film of a favourite actor/actress who particularly inspires you (remember though, the character is merely a reflection - we're not encouraging fantasy!).
- Suspend disbelief: Following the ceremony, imagine that your Twin Flame is now being reflected through all the external events, people and circumstances around you. Imagine that every smile sent your way, every twinkle of the eye, image in a magazine, or song lyric that you hear is intended solely for you and is a message of unconditional love from your Twin Flame. Completely suspend disbelief that this may be happening.
- Watch for Synchronicity: Synchronicity (apparent chance coincidences) is the objective 'supervisor' of absolute authentic reality. We know beyond a doubt that we are not creating some illusionary reality when events and circumstances have a natural flow to them supported by synchronicity - maybe you hear the same song several times in quick succession and it touches your heart; or you're given to watch a particular film with a character that deeply resonates; or particular words, places or names keep coming up in conversation. The more we watch for and thereby experience synchronicity, the stronger the phenomenon becomes our reality.
- Be more spontaneous: If our lives are heavily planned and we're always acting according to deadlines, meetings and fixed timings, we're providing less scope for our Twin Flame to create those minor miracles which can deeply touch us. So it will help to be more spontaneous in life, going with that inner pull to do something. Try spending the day "free wheeling" - simply follow the inner compulsion for the Universe to lead you where it will.
- Follow the unfolding story: The more we connect with our Twin Flame, it is likely the more we'll notice an unfolding story leading us on a journey of self discovery. It is important to follow the story but also keep testing it against synchronicity and inner feeling - checking that it is really real. There will come a time however, when the story becomes completely undeniable. Now we are engaged in a heavenly relationship - our unfolding pathway unconditionally supported by our Twin Flame.
Going back to the start
For many years I was asleep in the matrix of conditioning that causes us to believe we are separate from all things and that there is no benevolent presence guiding us back to who we really are. My awakening happened around events leading up to a car crash after which I discovered a deep and powerful connection to my Twin Flame. Just as I have outlined above, she began speaking to me through the weave of life.
In the beginning I was still more than a little skeptical that this was really happening, I'd have to keep pinching myself wondering if I was lost in some magical dream. Eventually though, I could no longer deny the continual stream of synchroncity that kept supporting the same story. The story is about taking us back to the start - the place before we were separated from divine union.
No more so was this story confirmed for me that through a particular video. It seemed to be the story of my awakening and when the Universe initially brought it to my attention, my heart dissolved, a deep sense of joy and longing arose within and tears began streaming down my cheeks. I'd like to share the video with you here below. In sharing it, I hope it will inspire more of you to make that divine inner connection to your Twin Flame...
(for those who don't have broadband, the lyrics are below)
With much love and best wishes to all
Chris
Openhand Foundation
unfolding into light
http://www.openhandweb.org
- The Scientist by Coldplay
"Come up to meet you, tell you I'm sorry
You don't know how lovely you are
I had to find you
Tell you I need you
Tell you I've set you apart
Tell me your secrets
And ask me your questions
oh, let's go back to the start
Running in circles
Comet tails
Heads on the science apart
Nobody said it was easy
It's such a shame for us to part
Nobody said it was easy
No one ever said it would be this hard
Oh take me back to the start
I was just guessing
At numbers and figures
Pulling your puzzles apart
Questions of science
Science and progress
Do not speak as loud as my heart
Come tell me you love me
Come back and haunt me
All in a rush to the start
Running in circles
Chasing our tails
Comin' back as we are
Nobody said it was easy
Oh, it's such a shame for us to part
Nobody said it was easy
No one ever said it would be so hard
I’m going back to the start..."
The difference between Higher Self and Twin Flame
Submitted by Chris Bourne on 23 July, 2008 - 08:28.
Hi Ben,
I think these are really important questions - thanks for posting them (again!).
I think what we experience tends to fall in line with where we are on our journey - the kind of level of unfolding we've attained. In the beginning, our purpose is to connect with what we might term the "Higher Self" (I don't really like the phraseology because to me there is only one self).
So we tend to tune into something 'above' and more spiritually advanced than ourselves - this tends to define many, if not all, spiritual practices. When we're in this place, clearly we're working from a place of separation. In other words we perceive ourselves as an identity separate from all things - otherwise why would we have to tune in to something that we already are?
When we're in this place, my experience is that we're likely to access many different forms of consciousness around us. Ideally we will form an early connection to our benevolent Higher Self. It may appear in the form of some kind of symbology, metaphor or even a spiritual manifestation. For example in his book "Peaceful Warrior", Dan Milman speaks of his relationship with an enlightened 'guru' he affectionately calls Socrates and in the Conversations With God trilogy, Neale Donald Walsche is engaged in a dialogue with what he calls "God". For me, in both cases the authors are really speaking and connecting with their Higher Self.
The purpose of this connection is to fully reconnect with Unity Consciousness (that which unites all), reintegrate the dissipated fragments of soul within us and to experience ourselves as the fully integral soul - higher and lower self unite at our transfiguration and we experience ourselves as the non-identified Seer expressing as the soul through the bodymind.
At any time on this journey we're likely to encounter our Twin Flame - just as a reminder, the Twin Flame is a 'part' of our soul that remains close to the Source during our incarnation drawing us back to the fully memory and experience of what we truly are. The Twin Flame speaks as reflections through the daily weave of our lives. Personally I found the vibration quite different although in the beginning the essence was much more subtle.
I found that my connection to my Higher Self came more symbolically through dreams for example and telepathic knowing transfer. It did frequently feel as though some form of 'light being' was present with me exchanging knowing and understanding. My Twin Flame however frequently worked by placing a filter between we and the people around me. So I was caused to see 'her' as reflections in others. It was as though other people took on a particular vibrational feeling that attracted me to them for particular reasons. I distinctly remember on a number of occasions being attracted to someone for a given period of time in order to learn something and then almost instantaneously (once I'd received the lesson) somehow the attraction would be switched off and they'd have an entirely different feeling to them - this I came to know as the presence of my Twin Flame acting by mutual consent with people at the highest possible levels.
For me, my Twin Flame has had a very feminine, soft and gentle feeling to it. I guess that's because these are the qualities that I most need to find within myself at this juncture in my unfolding.
Quite apart from this Higher Self/Twin Flame mix, other guides can and do frequently come in to teach us specific lessons for a given period of time. Some are benevolent and others not so. In discerning which are acting in our highest interests, I was shown very early on how true benevolent guidance works by creating a constantly changing mirror for us to best see ourselves. It does not tell us what to do or how to be. It doesn't even offer an opinion. It says "this is what you are being now. Does that serve you? If not, why not?" I've found this to be the most empowering form of guidance possible. It teaches us to trust in our own inner feelings and to be profoundly honest with ourselves.
So I trust this provides a few indications of the key differences!
Love and best wishes
Chris
Give evil nothing to oppose and it will dissolve of its own accord.
Centre in your absolute authentic reality; dissolve fear doubt and worry; walk your true path in life..."Unfolding into Light"
higher selves, twin flames and guides (take 2)
question re-posting)...
hi Chris
I was basically wondering about the difference between the twin flame, Higher Self and guides. In what ways might they make their presence felt in our lives and how might guidance from our Higher Self differ from that of another guide for example? I also wondered if what some people call their 'guide' is really their Higher Self?
thanks...again!
B
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