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13/05/09: "The secret at the bottom of the well of grief..."

Submitted by Trinity Bourne on 13 May, 2009 - 06:56


Getting to know our pain...
I have noticed that those who face experiences of the darkest, most challenging times often end up shining the brightest light of all. By going into the heart of the darkness, we begin to appreciate the strength of omnipresent benevolence that never leaves us...

At times I meet the most beautiful souls who are undergoing what could be considered "hell". My impulse is not to talk them out of it. Nor is my pull to make it better for them. My soul is instead stirred to help find a strength that will take them to the heart of the suffering; to look the pain right in the eyes and find something far beyond all of this. Fears begin to fall away as light (sometimes the tiniest speckle at first) is found at the heart of experience. Our identification with our fears fade as we realise that they cannot define our experience of this world; they cannot take away the light of our soul...

    "Your pain is the breaking of the shell
    that encloses your understanding.
    Even as the stone of the fruit must break,
    that it's heart may stand in the sun,
    so must you know your pain."
    Kahlil Gibran

The key is not wish for something else and deny what we are experiencing in our lives. It is important to trust that everything has been sent to help us remember who we truly are. In being the true self, we realise that there is a freedom beyond all things. Profound self honesty is a fundamental tenet in our journey of spiritual evolution. Without it, none of this is possible.

If I consider the people I've encountered on my long journey, it is always those who experience this truth, learning to observe the flow of authenticity, who shine the brightest light of all.

So let us always journey to the heart of things where the sacred waters of our salvation awaits...

    "Those who will not slip beneath
    the still surface on the well of grief
    turning downward through its black water
    to the place we cannot breathe
    will never know the source
    from which we drink
    the secret water, cold and clear,
    nor find in the darkness glimmering
    the small round coins
    thrown by those who wished for
    something else"

    David Whyte "Well of Grief"

In Love and Light
Trinity

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gratitude for your sharing ...

Submitted by rorrim on 15 May, 2009 - 14:33.

Your posting on grief has really struck a chord with me. I lost my husband of 10 years in February. I am only 31 years old - he was 35. We have three children - between 9 years and 21 months. Because we were having difficulty in our marriage the feelings about his death were also compounded by immense guilt for having spent this last year of his life at odds with eachother.

All I can say is that instead of avoiding the pain ... I headed straight into it and made a home there. I allowed my heart to feel the pain that has been longing to be noticed for my enitre life. All the pains of childhood, adolescence and adulthood that I have been repressing for so long. It was all in there stagnant and poisoning me.

And as I believe that this life is about self realization and refining our creative powers as spiritual beings, I can look at what might be viewed by some as this awful tragedy and see that it has been an incredible gift. It has allowed me to release all of that heavy pain and sadness in my soul and make space for the flowing of beauty and joy.

I can look back and see how all of my thoughts and ideas were creating my circumstances and my life was just reflecting back to me what I was Being in every moment. As it does every moment. And that there is no reason for guilt or shame or sadness ... there is only ever present opportunity for understanding.

And when I find myself grieving him or missing him - I know in the core of my being - that what I am really missing is the connection to myself.

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Powerful post

Submitted by Chris Bourne on 15 May, 2009 - 17:57.

Hi there,

Thanks so much for such a powerful sharing. That you've managed to confront what must be a deeply earth shattering experience with the courage to surrender is awe inspiring.

I've conducted many workshops where I've often been given to talk about the need to go right to the heart of pain wherever it occurs. Sharings such as yours are a powerful means to help people find the courage to overcome difficult situations.

We can talk about confronting fear, anguish and pain until the cows come home...your post demonstrates perfectly what it truly means to do that.

I take my hat off to you and offer you the profoundest love and support.

Chris

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Deeper truth

Submitted by Trinity Bourne on 24 May, 2009 - 08:31.

Hi Rorimm,

I've been away from the computer for the past ten days and felt deeply inspired to return to read your post here. I sense a deep shining of your soul through your words and the strength to find a deeper truth beyond the circumstances that have arisen for you. The universe orchestrates in order that we find our true beingness beyond all things.

You are a truly evolving soul and I feel honoured that you shared with us.

A few years ago I had a near death experience and for experienced the deepest peace that could be known. We are so infinitely more than these incarnated beings. I feel that this something that you embrace with all your heart.

In Love and Light
Trinity

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well of grief and peace

Submitted by tina99 on 23 June, 2009 - 18:54.

hello
it was really nice to read your poem the well of grief and also to read your posts.
i am on a long journey towards finding peace after losing my 5 month old baby boy Fynn, the circumstances of his short life, up to that and afterwards were also horrific for me & I ended up alone through it all. I am honored to have been his mother even for a short time, he was a very special gift to me and living through what we did has had a profound effect on me. He brought me back to my true path in life and I see him as my eternal guide.
His death stipped me to the core when all I had left was a black heart and now I am healing my heart is begining to shine and clear (all be it slowly) for me this is all that i am and all that is important, my heart centre.
Experiencing turning off his life support and seeing life leave him was the most awe inspiring moment of my life, i was privileged to see what i did and the light that emminated from him was amazing and luminous.
Thank you my darling Fynn.

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I feel deeply moved

Submitted by Trinity Bourne on 23 June, 2009 - 19:28.

Thank you for beautiful sharing Tina.

I feel deeply moved to hear your embracing of your dearest Fynn as your eternal guide and one who has helped bring you back to your true path. You are truly blessed with clarity of seeing the grace amidst all circumstance. It often helps to bring confirmation to our upwelling strength by sharing - and I feel honoured that you chose to share with us.

With Love
Trinity

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