22/03/09: "The secret of happiness..."


Are you happy?
How easy can be to effort and strive for joy and happiness, rather than allowing it to unfold as a natural expression of our beingness. Over efforting makes the object of our desire like a butterfly that will ever escape our grasp. Joy happens as a result of our presence and appreciation for each moment of life, whatever comes. Paulo Coelo offers a great perspective on this, illustrated well in his short spiritual story about the 'secret of happiness'...

With Love
Trinity

    A merchant sent his son to learn the Secret of Happiness from the wisest of men. The young man wandered through the desert for forty days until he reached a beautiful castle at the top of a mountain. There lived the sage that the young man was looking for.

    However, instead of finding a holy man, our hero entered a room and saw a great deal of activity; merchants coming and going, people chatting in the corners, a small orchestra playing sweet melodies, and there was a table laden with the most delectable dishes of that part of the world.

    The wise man talked to everybody, and the young man had to wait for two hours until it was time for his audience.

    With considerable patience, he listened attentively to the reason for the boy’s visit, but told him that at that moment he did not have the time to explain to him the Secret of Happiness.

    He suggested that the young man take a stroll around his palace and come back in two hours’ time.

    “However, I want to ask you a favor,” he added, handing the boy a teaspoon, in which he poured two drops of oil. “While you walk, carry this spoon and don’t let the oil spill.”

    The young man began to climb up and down the palace staircases, always keeping his eyes fixed on the spoon. At the end of two hours he returned to the presence of the wise man.

    “So,” asked the sage, “did you see the Persian tapestries hanging in my dining room? Did you see the garden that the Master of Gardeners took ten years to create? Did you notice the beautiful parchments in my library?”

    Embarrassed, the young man confessed that he had seen nothing. His only concern was not to spill the drops of oil that the wise man had entrusted to him.

    “So, go back and see the wonders of my world,” said the wise man. “You can’t trust a man if you don’t know his house.”

    Now more at ease, the young man took the spoon and strolled again through the palace, this time paying attention to all the works of art that hung from the ceiling and walls. He saw the gardens, the mountains all around the palace, the delicacy of the flowers, the taste with which each work of art was placed in its niche. Returning to the sage, he reported in detail all that he had seen.

    “But where are the two drops of oil that I entrusted to you?” asked the sage.

    Looking down at the spoon, the young man realized that he had spilled the oil.

    “Well, that is the only advice I have to give you,” said the sage of sages. “The Secret of Happiness lies in looking at all the wonders of the world and never forgetting the two drops of oil in the spoon.”

    Paulo Coelo

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Great post Trin.
I just love the parable from The Alchemist - one of my favourites.

I certainly do believe happiness has an inverse relationship to striving. The more we effort for things, the less happy we seem to be.

Chris

special moments

thank you trin!! lovely. i like the butterfly analogy too. Smile

I also notice that when I effort to do things and wrap them up in expectation and rigidness, perhaps plan or look forward to something too much or spend too much time imagining the outcome, that I never seem to enjoy it as much as when I can let go of any expectations and just allow things to happen according to what feels right in the moment. For example allowing space for spontaneity, to be open to the flow when plans change rather than struggling to create the pre-imagined outcome! I find that when I do that truly, special moments seem to occur to enhance the experience - the butterfly lands on my shoulder - and its so much more enjoyable!

smiles Smile
elly x

Dancing butterflies

Hey Elly,

Thanks for the sharing. It's always so nice to hear from you. The butterfly does indeed land on our shoulder when we stop trying to catch it Smile Last year (or was it the year before) I noticed that there seemed to be a constant stream of dragonflies landing on Chris as he gently appreciated the great outdoors. We become at one with the universal flow of energy and are truly blessed with these joyous miracles of life!

With love
Trinity
x

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