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The singularly most important thing after waking up


Okay it's a bold title. Please pardon my lack of humility! Yet I think there is something, that if it's not the most important thing we can do after waking up, is certainly very high on the list. I could define it colloquially as 'owning your stuff'. We've realised that everything is interconnected; that everything is consciousness; but then the next step is accepting that literally everything we create is the product of our inner configuration of consciousness. Both the 'good' and the 'bad'. So we need to own our creations and blame nothing 'out there' for what happens to us. This is amazingly empowering when we can do it. It's a real game changer...

Just like a movie

So maybe you're in a challenging relationship situation. Or you're finding your job a daily grind. Family or work colleagues just don't understand you or where you're coming from. You've found a place of cosmic connectedness that those around you just don't seem to understand. Here's the point though...

    The outer world is a reflection of the inner. Just like a movie, you project outwards both the positive and the negative aspects of your self. You're being presented a mirror, so you can empower yourself to change.

This is of course exactly how the infamous Law of Attraction works. Not the distorted one being banded around, where we try to manifest in the outer world our desires by intentionally manipulating our inner self. What is supposed to happen is that we unveil beingness and in so doing, the outer world is shaped accordingly.

Not as sexy as manifesting your desires?

No it's not as sexy as 'manifesting your desires'. Yes it does require commitment, courage and hard work. But anything that was ever worth having, was really worth working for. Effortless working yes, unwinding frustration and struggle yes, but nevertheless, intently applying commitment and focus.

    The point is you have a destiny, a destined way of being,
    and the universe will work tirelessly to help you unveil this.
    It will constantly shape and change situations to help you be more of who you truly are.
    And being your true self, is just like nothing else in existence.
    It is unique. Magical. Superlative.
    Be yourself, everyone else is already taken!

So how might you work on yourself in this unglamorous way?

  1. Firstly it's to totally and utterly accept that every situation and circumstance you find yourself in was created by you.
  2. In the beginning, not to try to change it with some intention or purposeful avoidance; not to try and create some alternative reality.
  3. Accept it totally and ask "What is this situation revealing to me?" Feel intimately any internal resistance, tightness or contractions inside.
  4. Soften into your tightness, accepting it totally and then work to unwind it. Place your attention right in the heart of it and see perhaps a knotted ball literally unwinding (or an appropriate feeling/visualisation that works for you).
  5. Work to realise what was the outcome that I thought I needed from this situation? What could I not accept? Remember that you are eternal, absolute, all there is, and need nothing outside of yourself.
  6. Now let go of the attached need for a desired outcome.
  7. Open an internal space, breathing deeply through it. Look for, feel, and attune to authentic arising beingness. Let your being shine through in whatever way feels like the core of who you are.
    Shine forth! Express you, and watch the world shape in a positive way.

Nothing else going on

Now I'm not telling you this is easy. I'm not telling you that you can "buy the DVD for £5.99" and master it in five minutes. It could take a lifetime! But then mastery is what we're here for. There's bundles of joy to be found in mastering mastery.

And in any case, there is nothing else going on! We might pretend for a while that it's about this or that: gaining that promotion, completing that creation, finding a truly successful relationship, but these are all the products of what you are being. Find out who you are - who you really are - and the right things will all shape miraculously around you.

What's more, you'll find absolute harmony in the outer with regards to how you're being on the inner. Indeed, this level of acceptance, could just about be, the singularly most important thing since waking up!


PS: we cover this experiencially in great detail on our level 2 course Path between Worlds


Ben's picture

a great reminder! thankyou.
I like this
" The point is you have a destiny, a destined way of being,
and the universe will work tirelessly to help you unveil this.
It will constantly shape and change situations to help you be more of who you truly are.
And being your true self, is just like nothing else in existence.
It is unique. Magical. Superlative.
Be yourself, everyone else is already taken!"


Glad you liked it Ben

Kelvin's picture

Hi Open,

It has been a little tumultuous this return to conventional life after what now feels something like a time-warp into freedom, my short time in Glastonbury and undertaking the Five Gateways course. Little did I realise how it would affect me so profoundly and the sense of isolation from the conventional that would ensue. A week now has passed since my return to South Africa and while my energy has seldom been higher, conscious reflection on life has left me feeling mildly depressed, to say the least. Whilst my mind says that I need a high mountain retreat in isolation chanting one long continuous Om, I realise that I have other responsibilities, both mundane and of a higher order.

Your post has come at a most synchronous way for me (and no doubt others) and although I recognise the rational wisdom, it is not always easy to allow it to wash over and ease the dis-ease. I have come to realise that at the moment I am highly sensitised to emotionally charged situations and that having asked to step up my agenda I am feeling a little over-whelmed with the energy of that request. I have been reminding myself of an important aspect of authentic living that I took from the course is to soften into the situation. The analogy that I offer myself and that maybe useful to consider is that of swimming with the current instead of opposition to it. The former is easy and expends little energy as great pleasure is derived from the experience, the latter is hard work, tiring and one becomes distracted by focusing on the effort required rather than on the experiences that may be over-looked.

If I can read into what you say, it seems inferred that we need to have a quality of patience, allowing us to both relax and soften into this energy of change. In so doing we are likely to feel less inclined to force situations into artificial outcomes that could stem from our locked in belief systems.

Fond regards from SA

Lesley Lord's picture

Hi Kelvin,

Good to connect again. I like the way you've picked up on developing patience. Patience has certainly been a big part of my journey. Patience with my self, say when I've felt the task ahead is too huge, or I've been feeling like my progress is so slow, or asking myself "surely there can't be more stuff to process, how much "stuff" can there be?" Also patience with other people on their journey. And a very big one has been having patience with "not knowing" when I've wanted an answer, The last one is really key to not "pushing" the energy, (like you say, "forcing artificial outcomes" and staying open to feeling, holding the space for what is right to appear.

Warm wishes from Glastonbury, and looking forward to seeing you here again soon.

Kelvin's picture

Hi Lesley,

Lovely to hear from you too. Your dialogue inspired a wonderful insight, that after having typed it all out, got lost as my internet connection failed! I had a chuckle as my first response was mounting irritation and then in the spirit of this post, I realised the need to soften into the situation. . . with patience!

The gist of it was that in the light of attuning to the energy of new consciousness, if we avoid rushing down the path in excited anticipation of the end result, we may still have an opportunity to realise more subtle clues, that could enable us to resolve some deeper issues more elegantly, rather than waiting longer for them to knock us for a six.

With Love & Joy, in Gratitude
From sunny SA, Kelvin