Each and every one of us is beautiful and magnificent exactly as we are. By simply being our true selves our unique and exquisite light shines. Yet, so many of us are disconnected from this truth, we feel inadequate and less than. So many of us want to fit in, to be like others, to be accepted.
Yet what matters is being who we truly are and expressing our unique authentic beingness - how joyful and liberating is that! In the world we currently live in being our true selves is not always easy or straightforward...
The Importance of Letting go of Comparison
Theodore Roosevelt once said that "Comparison is the thief of Joy". When we compare ourselves or our achievements to others, we make one thing more and something else less than. Many years ago I was comparing myself to someone vibrant and gregarious, and feeling less than in comparison. A wise and dear friend used the analogy of different types of tea cups. She explained that while I might resemble one of those delicate and ornate china cups, the other person was more like a large, beautifully crafted pottery mug. Both these cups are beautiful, yet totally different. This analogy really helped me to see the uniqueness and splendor in each and every one of us.
If I may continue with another tea related analogy, we all are drawn to particular tea cups and tea flavours that we enjoy. In a similar way we are drawn to particular people with whom we resonate, and particular people are drawn to us. We are not everyone's cup of tea and that's absolutely okay. Be exactly who we are and we will draw exactly the right people to us. No matter how wonderful or inspiring or apparently "perfect" we are, there will always be people who don't resonate with our vibe nor even particularly like us - and that is okay! I will reiterate -
- If we can just simply be who we are, we will draw the right people to us.
Honouring the Beauty we possess Inside
We are each a unique expression of the Oneness of all Life, and as a unique expression we have our own gifts and beauty. Others are different from us. We will resonate more with some people than others and there will be people who challenge us and push our buttons and that's okay. These people are a gift in our lives too, they invite us to look inside at what is challenging us and encourage us to work on our own distortions and blockages. So many of us experience a need to be liked by others, that somehow validates us and makes us okay. Yet it is vital that we find a sense of being whole and complete, of being loved from within.
We live in a world that places value on certain characteristics, such as achievements, efficiency, cleverness... etc. This can drive competition. Alternatively, if we trust and feel confident within ourselves, it doesn't matter what is happening with others around us. We find the joy in our unique expression. I love being part of a supportive doula network where we encourage and inspire one another. When I go and meet a potential client I encourage them to meet other doulas, as I know that it is so important to find the right person to work with. Working in this way is so refreshing and liberating.
What do you like about YOU?
I find this video really inspiring where Colbie Caillat, tired of being photoshopped and turned into something "perfect", makes a point about our natural beauty and the things we do so that people like us... Hope you enjoy it as much as I do. Ultimately it comes down to do you like you? Can you love yourself and embrace who you are exactly as you are, warts and all? If you like you then you don't care what others think or feel about you, it simply doesn't matter. This doesn't mean that you don't consider others or that you are superior, you just are magnificent you.
You don't have to try so hard or change a single thing, you are wonderful, beautiful and perfect just as you are (including your imperfections - and we all have them). I leave you with the words of Celine Dione...
- "I see your true colours and that's why I love you,
So don't be afraid to let them show
Your true colours are beautiful like a rainbow
Fiona is an Openhand Facilitator and the Openhand Community Manager (see about us at: Openhandweb). She is also a reflexologist and experienced doula. She is passionate about living true to her heart and soul and empowering others to do the same. Her website is... http://www.fionareilly.co.uk
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