...and moving beyond it.
Right now in the world there is a good deal of anger and resentment, understandably so. When you consider the state of world affairs, of the economy, of the environment, of the inequity and injustice, it's enough to make a saint seethe! Yet the moment we blame someone or something else in the outer world as being the cause of our reality and experience, is the moment we disempower ourselves. Why so? And what would be a more productive approach?...
Mastering the Chess Game
It's not surprising really that we might want to blame the outside world - and people in it - for those events and circumstances that 'go wrong' in our lives. Through day-to-day activities, society seems to always teach us the importance of 'self defence', of always knowing what to do, of not admitting we could be wrong. It teaches us that we are separate from one another and all things; and that events happen randomly with no greater cause. In society it's all about manifesting, controlling, profiting, winning or just plain surviving.
We are instilled with wishes, hopes, desires or fears about "how things really could be or should be". Furthermore, we're taught that we shape our lives by moving pieces around on the external 'chess board': friends, relatives, partners, houses, jobs and cars to name but a few. How often do you hear about trying to find that perfect soul mate for example, or how to secure your house your 'nest egg' or the life you always wanted?
It's not surprising that even 'spiritual people' might forget one fundamental truth...
- We shape our world and everything in it,
including the consequences, people, events and circumstances,
not by moving pieces on the outer game board
like some logical, mind-led chess player,
but from the configuration of consciousness we radiate from within.
Co-creating together
Now I know that accepting our inner configuration of consciousness creates the outer mirror is sometimes quite a 'toughie' to get. Quite frequently I've heard from people...
- "surely not EVERYTHING is created by me? What about what everyone else is doing? What about the people I come into contact with? Are they not creating too?"
Yes indeed, we co-create together. The society in which we live includes also those who manipulate it. But the point is, everything is consciousness and we draw EXACTLY those circumstances and people to us, that we need in order to see who we really are by reflection in their mirror. So for example, many people are currently complaining about the banks and big corporations exploiting us and our earth. But we each have the power to decide what we spend our money on and with whom.

We created this system in which we live by our own inner karma, and the ONLY way to truly change it is to change ourselves. Do you believe that by going inwards we can really change the world? I do, I believe its the only way!
A Spiritual Warrior Responds
So society is simply being the mirror to our inner configuration of consciousness. So let's be really clear what is meant by the term 'mirror'. It's not that we simply see a direct reflection of ourselves. Yes, we may see both the 'good' and the 'bad', but the real point is...
- the people we come into contact with co-create circumstances with us, that get us to behave in a certain way.
A person might make us angry or frustrated for example: but it is us that is ALLOWING ourselves to be that way. It is this reaction, rather than a higher response, which is limiting and victimising us, not the person themselves...
- "A warrior responds, only a fool reacts"
Socrates from Peaceful Warrior
I've so often found in my awakened life, that when I have a problem with how someone else is being or what they are doing, that rather than looking at how they should change and how I think they should be, if instead I consider how I am causing this situation and how I am being invited to evolve?, then it always seems to facilitate a more evolved, harmonious outcome.
- The moment we blame another for something that happens in our lives, or the wider world, is the moment we disempower ourselves. We give away the possibility of self empowerment through all circumstances.
Realise don't theorise
Of course we might get this Law of Attraction at an intellectual level: that we really do draw to ourselves the exact circumstances as created by our inner configuration of consciousness. But we really have to live it and test it to REALISE the truth in it. If we're truly prepared to take responsibility for literally EVERYTHING that happens in our lives, if we're truly prepared to put ourselves out in this way, at whatever apparent personal cost, then this is probably the most empowering thing we can do in our lives.
- We're taking responsibility back for who we are and what we experience. We're no longer being victimised by events and other people by blaming them for what happens. And we're certainly not projecting anger or blame at someone else - all that does is put negative energy into the field which will sooner or later rebound right back on us.
So do you have the courage to take responsibility for everything you create? From direct experience, those who have, have taken major leaps forward on their spiritual path and discovered they're shaping a life that clicks into place, one that really works for them, the life they were destined to live.
Chris
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Response-ability
17 October, 2010 - 17:30 — Fiona ReillyHi
Great post, I can certainly identify with blaming others, infact I recognise how I have blamed others as part of an intricate game of self defense... If others are at fault then I don't feel I can trust them as much, then I have an excuse not to open up, get close and risk getting hurt. I hadn't recognised until recently that my sometimes judgemental thoughts were one of the initial cogs fuelling the self defending blame game. It feels very powerful and liberating to have seen the pattern.
Additionally over the past couple of days I've been exploring responsibility and what it means to me... In the past it felt like a burden, a chore... one defination I found that comes close to how I experienced it, stated that "it refers to a person attempting to meet the expectations others have of them."
However, thankfully this has changed, it feels like there has been an inner shift to following what feels right for me. My current interpretation of responsiblity is my "response-ability", my ability to respond to situations/thoughts/emotions (which I have created), with courage, truth and authenticity. It feels to link into the question Chris asked "If I consider how I am causing this situation and how I am being invited to evolve?" Perhaps in this instance, evolve could be interchanged with respond. I also acknowledge that responding does not necessarily mean taking action.
Be curious to know what responsiblity means to others?
Thanks for two wonderful, inspiring posts and gratitude for the mirrors, much love, Fi
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17 October, 2010 - 20:01 — Chris BourneHi Fiona,
You said...
responsiblity is my "response-ability", my ability to respond to situations/thoughts/emotions (which I have created)
I like that - it works for me! As our sense of presence increases and our willingness to embrace ourselves as creators of the moment and everything we experience in it, then yes, our ability to respond - our response-ability - increases.
But you're right, it's not at all a burden. It's a powerful opportunity to find something deeper, something more meaningful, a higher expression.
It seems then, then more we take 'ownership' of our reality, the more the yoke of responsibility is lightened by our increasing response-ability.
Chris
children and blame/responsibility
28 May, 2012 - 20:54 — BeckyHi Chris
Thanks for this post. Could I just ask you something that I often come up against in my line of work - what about children? Do they also attract circumstances into their lives and are they responsible for what happens to themselves? I think the answer is probably yes, they are also souls learning lessons - but people find this very hard to digest, wanting to see children as innocent etc.
Becky
Taking ownership
29 May, 2012 - 06:31 — Chris BourneHi Becky,
Yes indeed - I observe in my own children how the universe still presents them circumstances from which to learn, even if they don't 'get it'.
I'd say it's because the universal process is not an intentional thing. The Law of Attraction is like a magnetic force - one of consciousness. Our inner configuration simply manifests the mirror we experience through the circumstances of our lives whether young or old.
I think many parents tend to protect their children from the harsh consequences of the mirror early on. Our approach (purely unintentional) seems to be to allow the growing child to confront and deal with their manifestations to the degree they are able.
So they take on increasing responsibility for their own life as early as possible.
Take for example learning. Trinity's son Ocean is home educated. Sometimes there are problems with motivation. It's hard to see the relevance of GCSE qualifications - who can blame him!
So our approach is to empower him by getting him to own his own motivation. We'll use questioning to help him connect with what's important to him in life and then we respond to his answers. So it's getting him to take ownership.
Chris
thanks Chris
29 May, 2012 - 12:00 — BeckyThanks Chris. I also try to bring up my children to make their own decisions and take responsibility for themselves and their actions - it can be hard to step away when you think you know where their actions are likely to lead! My eldest son is in the midst of his GCSEs and has come to the conclusion that 'there's more to life than qualifications' - I think this is due in part to finding love! He can now accept that he may not be top of the class in all subjects and that is ok, so he has taken the pressure off himself after years of stressing about not doing as well he thought he should - despite me telling him that he was just fine as he was. I think what people struggle with is when 'terrible' things happen to children and adults find it hard to believe that they have 'invited' such things into their lives - but then, people find it hard to take that they themselves might have attracted 'bad' stuff into their lives.
Becky
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