Hi Sam,

Welcome to the forum... It is great to have you join us here : Attachment is certainly an interesting state of mind, rather devious trickery to keep us scrambling around in the illusionary world.

The first step is to recognise whether or not we are attached to whatever it is i.e. person, job, food, t.v., emotional state etc (this is the most difficult step of all).

The second step is that once we have realised our attachment, we make one of two choices...
1. To stuff it back into our subconscious and ignore it
2. To bring it truthfully to our awareness.

And step three... (if we have chosen to bring it to awareness)
Having truthfully exposed the attachment to ouselves, it brings to us question why we are holding onto such things in the first place. Our circumstances begin to redjust, new insight begins to appear, and life continues to unfold aligned with our true purpose in life.

Is it easy you ask??? Well, it gets easier with practice :

With Love
Trin
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I agree with you Trin. Awareness of an attachment is the main key to releasing it.

Once we are aware of an attachment we see how patterns keep manifesting in our lives to recreate the attachment. For example, we may be attached to being in relationship. This of course is an illusion of the false self because the true self needs no relationships at all - it is already completely at one with everything.

So if you have not yet discovered that you can be completely and awesomely okay with being alone yet, it is likely that you will manifest relationships that don't work out to put you in the place of being alone. The false self continues to struggle to find a relationship and so is not at peace with aloneness.

However, if you identify this pattern reocurring and surrender into it, ie not seek a relationship, then you will discover that you can be wonderfully at peace on your own, realising the divinity and beauty in all things.

The ability to 'surrender into situations' comes from the acceptance that ALL of life's experiences are about self realisation. In other words we did not come here to have relationships or create things for example although these may be the 'by products' (so to speak) of self realisation. When we accept this, all attachments can be released.

Best wishes

Chris

I've found a very powerful way of releasing attachments to emotional experiences is to ask myself the following questions:

1. Who am I? Answer: “I am the absolute”.
   You are eternal, you cannot die and you cannot go anywhere because you exist everywhere. You created everything you are now experiencing and there is nothing you cannot cope with.
2. What time is it? Answer: “the time is now”.
   Nothing before this moment matters because you can do nothing to change it. The future unfolds out of the present so you need not think about it. Therefore the only thing to do is be fully present in the moment now.
3. What do you need? Answer: “nothing that I don’t already have”.
   You don’t need anything that you don’t already have because if you did, you wouldn’t be here! You will always have EXACTLY what you need to be your true self. It is only when you are being the false self that you experience lack or loss.
4. Why are you here? Answer: “to remember who I am”.
   There is only one true purpose of the universe and that is to experience who we are - the absolute. Every moment reveals this to us and there is absolutely nothing to do other than this. When we remember who we are, we help others do the same - it is like a chain reaction.

Hope this helps!
PS. Are there any similar techniques you use? We would love to hear about them.

5.What am I holding on to? Answer: "look inside".
Often it's not immediately apparent to me what's going on with an issue, but introspection and writing down the possible answers does usually help. As ever, they are usually self-illusions/delusions of the ego in one form or another.

Yes Indeed Liberation - thank you for that.
It brings me onto another point - how do we know if we are attached to something?

The answer is if we loose inner peace over something. The key is to ALWAYS have a part of your attention turned inwards watching if you tighten up as a result of things happening in the outside world.

When this happens we can be sure we are experiencing an attachment (or 'distortion'). These attachments render us unable to act in line with our true selves and therefore the outcome is not inline with our best pathway in life.

So by always having our attention turned inwards and noticing when tightness arises, we can idetify the areas we need to work on.

A little didi about the Ego mind. If we allow the ego mind to rule then basically we go to battle with ourself.

Ego Combat

Ego sits as king, preys on a mind
To look for combat, an act unkind
Soldiers consist of idea and emotions
False power brewed of poisonous potion

Army’s leader, anger and manipulation
Second in command, heightened expectation
Following suit, judgment and fear
To prove who’s right, leave a path of tears

Awareness can conquer this battle zone
Remove ego from its insecure throne
By tapping into a level much higher
Conscious awareness a soul’s desire
Ego will try to regain position
Only if....
You give it permission

Author: Lori D. Carson
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Brilliant Wings!
I see that you are no stranger to the 'warrior' within... In my experience an essential aspect in accceptance of the human experience.