Jealousy

Cody's picture
Submitted by Cody on 20 November, 2011 - 10:23

So one aspect of the ego/mind I have noticed coming up is jealousy. A situation external, or story internal, has shown me that someone gets to have something that I no longer have, don't currently have, and wont have with a specific person. With this the mind provokes jealousy. Yes it is specific towards romance and intimacy of a separation, and the person experiencing romance and intimacy with someone else.

I noticed that when it comes to hate, the solution is love. But what about jealousy?

I feel like its rooted in attachment. If I were not attached to the person, I would not be jealous correct?

Perhaps I could just gain some insight into the nature of jealousy.

,Cody

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At the heart of jealousy

Submitted by Chris Bourne on 20 November, 2011 - 10:33.

Hi Cody,

The Openhand way of dealing with any distortion is to look for the truth at the core of it.

To me the truth in the distortion jealousy is envy. Providing envy is not allowed to own you, it can be very positive: it shows you what is possible in your own life and can motivate you into action.

The key is to explore honestly what you feel envious about? What aspect of beingness might be currently missing from yourself which could bring that which you envy into being? How is the person/people you're envious of being? What are they showing to you?

Chris

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Cody's picture

Well.

Submitted by Cody on 20 November, 2011 - 20:30.

Okay, Envy makes a lot more sense.

To be totally honest. I will be open here, please excuse me, hahaha.

I am envious that a girl I was seeing might be experiencing intense physical pleasure through sex, and I am not.

What is missing from myself is that physical pleasure and mental pleasure from the sexual act. Even though love is here within, its something I miss Sad

How is the person? Well, I honestly don't think she is happy. I feel like they are covering up whatever unhappiness they have with physical/mental pleasure. She has been doing drugs by herself, and she is seeing her ex bf who she said made her feel bad about herself, and that sex with him was boring.

I guess its showing me, that I am not totally happy, and that I am not covering it up with sex or drugs.

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