Hey Teresa,

You have most of your answers already in your posting You know what is going on for you.

Regarding your question on how others set their boundaries:

Here is my answer...

Every encounter, every experience is an opportunity to learn something deeper about ourselves. When we are truly at one with the boundless Soul, we find that boundaries happen of their own accord. We tend to attract exactly the right situations for our own evolution. Once we have moved past a particular issue, we will no longer attract it (or atleast if we do we have something else to learn at a deeper level).

If it were me in the same situtation I wouldn't be concerned about 'HER' stuff in the situation. That's not the issue. Our only issue is 'OUR OWN' stuff. That is the only thing we can change. All else will either adapt accordingly or fall away.

Trinity
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Thanks for your insight Trinity. I can see how when we are at one with the boundless soul, boundaries happen of their own accord in a context of like minded spirits.

But what about in the matrix world , it takes two to tango and if only one is prepared it won't manifest to its fullness I feel. To understand the language surely we have to know it in the first place..... Sorry if that sounds....

But it's true that we can only change ourselves and that is what I am working at on this one as obviously it hit a blockage.And already the flux & flow just disintegrates what is not important.

LOve ansd Light Tess

Teresa wrote: "But what about in the matrix world , it takes two to tango and if only one is prepared it won't manifest to its fullness I feel.

Even during my encounters in the 'matrix' world, I am looking at it from the perspective mentioned above.

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Yes that's my experience too Trinity. Boundaries are only porous because we allow them to be - even with 'matrixy' people. I can think of two recent occasions where my own boundaries were tested in this way.

Firstly, a person who I was very close to in the past (before my awakening) tried to project their stuff onto me (I have an ongoing connection with them because of my children). Although I knew it would be difficult, I felt to 'call' them on their projection... "why are you being so aggressive? Am I not also entitled to a point of view?" It was said in a gentle but very firm way. The person backed off.

The next time, with the same person, having 'cleared some air', they were using a 'nicely, nicely' approach to 'enter my field'. It felt friendly, but as though they wanted something. My authentic response (not a mind led strategy) was to open and open - to be transparent - as if hardly there. In so doing there was nothing for this rather overpowering 'nice' energy to latch onto. And actually for me it was quite blissful. I could happily receive what they were putting out and let it pass right through me, judgments and all.

But I've been in this kind of situation before. You cannot switch off. Even though very dissolved and transparent, you still need to be attentive (if we're to respond always from authenticity). It's a good job I was being so. Using the 'nicely nicely' approach, the said person then tried to 'slip something in' under the radar screen so to speak. They began to build an illusionary reality involving me in obligation and false responsibility - I'm sure you've been there!

But the fox in me responded quickly. That's when you have to 'shape shift' and take a position again with forthrightness. It did work - the said person backed down again immediately.

So setting boundaries does work for people in the matrix too. In my experience, when we're totally committed to profound self honesty and therefore authentic response, whatever the apparent risk, that's where it can be most effective.

Chris

Hey Chris,

And as you say, there is no 'one' fixed way to deal with a situation. One event may invite us to be forthright. Another we might be given to be silent. Another humorous. Another serious. The key is attuning to what is right for each unique circumstance.

Trinity
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Thanks for sharing Trinity and Chris.Guess we didn't learn those folk tales and fairy tales for nothing!

Hi, this is a really interesting topic for me too. I have become increasingly aware over the years that I can react to people in a not-very-authentic way, usually when I want them to like me! I have often pretended to be ok with something, and allowed them to impose. I know it's an egotistical reaction, wanting people to like me. I'm beginning to see that as long as I act assertively, but without being defensive or hostile, that the outcome will be more positive for all parties concerned. I appreciate what you said, Trinity, about attuning into the right response for that unique moment.

However, there is one other issue that I remain unsure about, and it would be useful to hear what anyone else has experienced or feels about it...regarding boundaries...

Since I was young, I've had some pretty scary nightmares and even 'awake' experiences. These have involved my feeling terrifed by the presence of what appeared to be an 'evil' energy in my dreams or even still there when I awoke. They're not so common now, but I still occasionally become overwhelmed by this intrusion into my energy field. I wonder then, how it is that these energies can visit us when we are asleep? My understanding is that there is nothing that occurs without reason - do you think I have a higher lesson to learn here, or are these energies able to 'sneak' in while we're asleep regardless of our higher intentions? I think I may have a big lesson to learn, regarding how to trust my own inner source of love, but it is very difficult to access this understanding when you're in a state of acute anxiety in the middle of the night!

Does anyone have any handy tips? I used to believe all the stuff about creating protective 'bubbles,' 'shields,' visualising white light, etc, but I've come to the conclusion that this just reinforces the belief that the other energies out there are more powerful than us, and reinforces our fear. So now I'm trying to go it alone, but it's not easy! How can I attune to the best response for that unique moment, when my anxiety levels are so high?

Hi Wendy,

Thanks for your contribution to the thread and your sharing. We have a 'knowing' here at Openhand that we frequently apply when working with people. It is this: whenever a person asks a question from the soul, the soul always tends to answer in the person's own words and normally immediately. It's just a question of spotting it and deciphering it.

So you asked about being attacked by entities - what we call "Opposing Consciousness" - which are basically awash in the field all around us. You ask about the best response and then complete your post by saying...

"How can I attune to the best response for that unique moment, when my anxiety levels are so high?"

The energy is drawn to you BECAUSE your anxiety levels are so high. That's what the consciousness feeds off. And you're exactly right - creating energy bubbles around oneself only really creates a target. It's like drawing moths to the car headlights.

So I'd say it's all about working to let go of that anxiety. It sounds like you've already been doing that with a degree of success - I'd say this is the approach.

It's about becoming what you truly are - nothing in it all. If you are nothing, there is no target and nowhere to strike. So in the evening especially, before you go to sleep, relaxing and letting go will help. But also whenever you have anxiety or worry about something, catching yourself in that instant and working to soften into it - not to tighten up.

You will also likely find that such anxiety effects you in a particular area of your body - like the stomach or solar plexus - or you might feel a buzzing in your head. In turn these tell tale signs might also reveal other more subtle feelings in the heart or other parts of the body such as the throat. What you're likely activating is past life karma and this is causing the anxiety.

So when you feel anxious, go deep inside, explore your inner most feelings. Put your centre right in the heart of the feelings and soften into them. Let them unwind and unravel. That way you'll remove the source of the incongruence which draws that negative energy to you.

Best wishes

Chris

Yes – haha! I was aware when I was typing that last bit, that I was being uncharacteristically admissive about experiencing extreme anxiety. I did consider modifying it to appear less flawed, but fortunately decided to upload the post in its original state...

Upon reading your reply, I was drawn to realising that I like to think of myself as being a chilled person, when in fact my physiology has long since become accustomed to over-reacting at the slightest perceived problem. Your advice to ‘catch yourself and soften into it, is very useful, thank you.

However, I rarely feel tense before I go to sleep – that’s why I’m surprised at the ability of the negative entities to sneak into my energy field. I only wake up in a state of terror after having been subjected to a ‘visitation.’ My usual nightly routine is to express gratitude for the day’s gifts, then to practice circular breathing/circulating love energy in and out of my energy field. Perhaps I’m too attached to the feelings of scoring spiritual Brownie points, and my ego energy is attracting the entities?! Okay then, so I should carry on with the gratitude stuff and energy circulating – but without any attachment to the outcome!

Chris, really loved that bit about becoming nothing in it all (although my ego squealed rather loudly as I read it) – I’m going to write it on pieces of paper and stick it everywhere. This seems similar to your earlier advice on becoming ‘transparent, as if hardly there.’ I’m sensing a need for more balance when I do the energy stuff; keep the experience of feeling at one with everything, yet also simultaneously attune to the ‘nothingness.’ Do others have difficulties doing this?

I’m also getting guidance to practice with small steps first; learning to gradually catch myself and soften, with life’s daily perceived traumas. I’m also being made aware of the need to use my sense of humour as a tool to perceive negative energies in a different ‘light.’

For years, I believed that it was incredibly unfair, that negative entities should be ‘allowed’ into anyone’s space, when they were asleep and unable to ward them off. Nowadays, I have more trust that the universe is a fair place - so at some higher level, I guess I must be ‘allowing’ my encounters with them, to create an opportunity for understanding and growth. Do other people think agree with this, I wonder?

Many heartfelt thanks, for your contribution. Wendy.

Hi Wendy,

You say...

"However, I rarely feel tense before I go to sleep – that’s why I’m surprised at the ability of the negative entities to sneak into my energy field. I only wake up in a state of terror after having been subjected to a ‘visitation.’ "

Without wanting to cause any kind of alarm (because it's not necessary), when most people go to sleep, the soul retracts itself from the bodymind and dwells closer to the source. That's why there's the possibility of attack. It happens because of the general tightness - pain - that we carry.

As we advance down our path, we infuse soul deeper and deeper into the bodymind. We do this by unwinding fear and anxiety - tightness. As we open an ever greater internal space, the soul can infuse deeper and deeper. It reaches the point where sleep is no longer necessary - or at least in the terms most people know it now.

There is rest yes, but there is continual presence within the rest. So the soul no longer retracts itself - there is continual peace.

There are no 'quick fixes' to getting to this place. It is the natural journey of enlightenment. The journey is fueled by increasing presence. If we feel tight inside but either ignore, deny or suppress it, then we form a limiting identity to that tightness. We create internal noise which is continually there, this is what the soul must retract - rest - from.

As we bring increasing awareness inside, then the tightness naturally unwinds itself. We cease being an identity and instead know ourselves as what we are - pure presence. And in this place, there is no possibility of attack because there is nothing there - no target!

Chris

Thank you, Chris. There is a lot of positive information and guidance in your reply. Plenty to work with!

I had not previously considered the potential for the soul to be so deeply infused in the bodymind, even during sleep.

I can feel, that the exchanges in this blog communication are supporting the start of a new development stage for me. I was aware that I was missing something basic, and I'm beginning to see now that it will be useful to work on clearing my 'tightness' and pain. I have spent many years ignoring it...

Thanks, also, to the benevolent universe, for supporting this conversation.

Wendy.