Lots of food for thought on both questions.

To me, it feels as if I have incarnated here in human form and the invitation completely at one with it. To me 'enlightenment' is found in the every day moments. It is found in interaction with people, washing the dishes, gardening and especially all the places where I might feel restricted and uncomfortable. The key for me is not to run away but to find myself through ALL things.

Everyone has a unique path. I know there are benefits for some to remove themselves from the world that pulls them out of alignment with their authentic beingness. But the question is - can they integrate that experiece back into the experience of human beingness. Unless we can reintegrate then the experience is isolated.

Haule wrote: "There is nothing wrong with human-ness. Why do people wish to deny it?

Being fully human is the and embracing all the gifts of beingness therein is a most challenging experience for people. It is much easier to remove oneself from it and imagine that transcendence equates to enlightenment. This is what people have been taught for aeons from many doctrines. It is easy to find an enlightened state removed from society. It is much more challenging to find enlightenment through all things.

Trinity
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I don't do small talk Although I am not rude either. For me, I either feel a soul connection with another or I don't. If I don't then I may exchange a few friendly words of greeting - although having said that I wouldn't normally feel inclined make further chit chat. To me chit chat feels like being imprisoned in a meaningless conversation that doesn't serve either parties. I find purpose in being polite. Yet, I don't find purpose in talking for the sake of filling the space. There is a fine balance.

Having said that, I don't usually find myself sharing space with another unless there is a deeper meaning to it.

I might guess that you are being invited to look at your own discomfort with situations like the 'silent man' in your house. Can we really accept each other for who we are without judgement?

Perhaps you were even being invited to be honest with him about how you were feeling. Maybe that would have opened up a worthwhile exploration and discussion.

I was in a similar situation a couple of years ago. I felt no judgement towards that person, yet the energy just wasn't working for me. So I called him on it and was honest about how the situation made me feel. It wasn't targeted at him - I took owenership of my own stuff. Yet I shared. You know what happened then? The energy shifted he found a more social way of being as a result.

The thing is. I didn't 'need' him to change. When I shared, I wasn't trying to alter his persona in some way. I just felt a soulful impulse to be honest with him because his energy was invading my space (in the same way this 'silent guy' seemed to be doing for you). My honesty invited him to look deeper within. A veil of illusion fell. He could clearly see that there was more sensitive approach within him yearning to be unveiled. Well that is the nutshell version anyway, the essence of what happened.

To me, it's about honouring our uniqueness without judgement and helping one another to find a more authentic expression of human beingness. One of the most helpful ways to do this is to find our own authenticy and let it act as a mirror.

If we are not seeking a situation to be another way, then deep realisations tend to unfold.

Trinity
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for this thread and the comments, it all is very relevant to me now.

I am going to go outside today, and it seems as if I have never been outside before, this is how I feel. How am I going to deal with it all? How am I going to communicate? How will I make it? How not to be bewildered and enclosed within myself, how to open, feel, harmonize and find some miraculous way to communicate, but also not to lose myself, not to be dissipated, to keep aligned (and furthermore effortlessly), recenter, find balance every moment...

Wow, what a challenge! - all this human experience... this is crazy.

It feels to me as if it is going to be another 'sweat-lodge' experience, the only way to survive is to surrender, get into the feelings and be navigate the energies inside and now also to be sensitive to the energies outside.

So maybe I will have something to share today about chit-chatting and small talk after coming back from the 'battle'-field, but at the moment the advice I am getting from the guidance is to feel in the moment. There is no right or wrong, or should do's.

Maybe I will feel like light chit-chat with somebody specific, maybe some more deep conversation with somebody else, and maybe I will feel like 'move away from this one' not because rejection, judgment, feeling uncomfortable or something like that, but a simple pull away or will just feel that something feels as odds, like 'empty', 'nothing to do here, move on'.

So it seems the message is that it is not something to decide theoretically in advance, but to live it in the moment.

And while I agree and feel that I am here to experience this human-being, so total isolation and rejecting the society, people and life outside don't really serve this purpose, but also getting TOO 'human' would definitely bring me down, because deep inside I don't feel so belong. So it is again about balance and feeling out. When to poke my nose out of the hole and when to go back inwards.

Beautiful day to all,
Yulia