Working with sexual energy
I have been married for a number of years. While the journey of our married life has not been without challenges, our relationship remains strong.
However, I am currently experiencing a very strong attraction for another woman. In normal circumstances, maybe I could just walk away from this - but the problem is that it is in a work environment, we may be working together closely for a few more months, and walking away is not straight forward.
Is there anything I can do with this strong sexual energy? e.g. to transform it into something else?
I am conscious of the fact that this urge has, at its root, a strong creative impulse - is there some way that this creative impulse can be channelled differently? are there any exercises I could use to work with it constructively?
The alternative is to follow the urge - and while I feel a strong physical compulsion to do so, my mind tells me that this would be highly dangerous with a strong destructive potential.
The Hindu god (although I am seeing actually a goddess) Shiva comes to mind - destroyer and creator/transformer.
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Redirecting sexual energy
Hi seeclear,
Yes it seems like you're in a challenging situation - one that I'm sure many could empathise with.
I think it's also wonderful that you're having the courage to be honest with yourself, confront the issue and rather than simply giving in to the impulse, ask "why is there resistance to the impulse and so what is really my highest truth here?"
So you might feel a totally natural sexual impulse which in many circumstances might be the appropriate expression. Yet you feel loyalty to your partnership which is another authentic characteristic of the soul (as long as it's not confused with perceived obligation which is a distortion - I don't sense you're doing this).
I also see that from my perspective, you've found the right approach to dealing with the issue. The Ray 1 "Warrior Energy" is inspiring the sexual impulse, yet it can be directed into creativity too.
Firstly I'd say the key is not to deny or suppress the feelings inside. But also work to bring the energy back inside yourself. So your colleague is inspiring the movement and there's a typical tendency to associate the feeling with the object of the impulse - to then want to engage in something that might be inappropriate.
So feel that energy, but work not to identify it with your colleague - bring it back inside yourself and know it as your own.
Then it becomes possible to express it in all manner of things - sport for example, or the martial arts, or in loving expression with your partner. Another way would be by the practice of tantra with yourself - you might want to look into that.
Once you've broken the slight attachment to the 'object of your desire', I'd say simply ask the universe how to work with the energy, how to direct it and then watch for an answer. It's sure to unfold.
Chris