Being Authentic=losing friends?

Hi all,

I'm new here. Just discovered this site yesterday after watching 5Gateways documentary looking for answers. It seems the more authentic I am, the more "friends" I seem to lose. I find that a lonely place, and hard to deal with. I'm very emotional about it. I seem to cry at the drop of a hat.

So here, I am, finally learning to come out of my shell, expressing myself, learning to love myself, and feeling shunned. Makes me want to retreat back into being invisible, into nothingness, bury my head in the sand, so to speak.

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Yes welcome home :) I too can identify with this, thank you for sharing

"When you find people who not only tolerate your quirks but celebrate them with cries of 'Me too !!', be sure to cherish them. Because those weirdos are your Tribe."
Welcome to Tribe Weird. :)

Hello Mountain Warrior, you will find new beings coming into your circle, as well as a connection to beings you may not have noticed before: rock beings, tree beings, grass beings. The people who are leaving your life right now are making space for your authenticity. You can experience it as sadness and as expansiveness. There are always gifts in each revelation.

Love from the Blue Ridge Mountains,


So lovely to hear your sharing Mountain warrior . Like many in the Openhand community , we recognize fully and deeply where u are at right now . I have for the past 15 to 20 years of searching who i am " lost many friends " on the rocky twists and turns of this deep search . One trait of this " awakening " phenomenon is the following , at least in my personal experience :
The real meaning of why i could not hang out anymore with some friends always came later ... days or weeks or months later . I was always invited to understand the subtle reasons . My core question was : Am i loosing anything in this ? how does it make me feel ? Higher consciousness would reply pretty clearly in subtle ways : " U have lost nothing but learned to recognize some aspects of yourself that were not seen before " . I would than feel that there is a vibration shift within myself offering the chance to let go ... Often enough , new relations would enter my Life .Only a few rare relations have been evolving through the years and becoming amazingly fulfilling ( inner growth , deeper learning , strong deeper mirrors ) and loving .
Namaste , Jean

Hey MountainWarrior,

So nice to hear from you. And don't worry, you are most definitely NOT alone.

Your situation is greatly understood by many here, who've been through similar. The Law of Attraction draws you into situations that reflect two things: (1) inner beingness (2) distortions of inner beingness.

Because in most people the distortions are in initially very strong, then they draw their distortion in the people they manifest. But then you wake up. Your soul starts to break through. Now you start to manifest from a different place and the old reality you've created gets stirred up. It can feel like being in the centre of a tornado.

So hold on (by letting go!) - then you come into the eye of the storm. Now you draw different situations and people - your tribe!

However for a while, as you shed the old skin, you'll might find yourself stuck between both camps and no longer quite fitting in anywhere.

Don't worry, this is okay. The future is emerging steadily from the haziness. In due course it will clear. Your new consciousness will make new connections, naturally. It'll feel increasingly harmonious.

Welcome home. You're a part of the Worldwide Spirit Warrior Tribe now!...