Law of confusion

Hi all,

I'm borrowing the words of someone who posted them in the forum. I can't find the original post and have forgotten the name of the person who posted it. Thank you for sharing as I learned a new phrase- a phrase that I can totally resonate with as I feel this law of confusion is what I'm going through right now. I'm confused about a certain aspect of my life. Other things are going great for me i.e. Job, kids, particularly, but I'm at a total loss when it comes to deciding whether I should give up something- something that is costing me money but also I know that by keeping it I'm hanging on to something that I'm not yet willing to give up. Giving it up breaks my heart but I know using my head, I should give it up and the use the money elsewhere i.e. Save it up!

It's been months now that I've been procrastinating. There were numerous occasions when I tried to tell myself to just give it up- but all in vain.

I'm not sure if there's an answer to this but I'm hoping that putting it out loud, that the answer will come to me soon.

I trust that I'm being guided and it'll work out in due time.

For now, I'm enduring the sadness and hope- things that this thing I need to give up represent.

I'm on a crossroad, and I can't seem to choose.

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I feel for you Muffling Winds *give_rose*

Yes it takes time. Yes we need to grieve. If a relationship has broken down for example, then there are going to be lots of touch points where our energy might have become associated with another - entwined within there's.

Like for example the places you used to visit together, the things you used to do - they all contain energetic associations. And as you pull apart, you pull on each of these 'heart-strings' in turn. And the only way through, is to honour and work with each in turn, recognising that the love one felt, was - and is - inside oneself all the time. Not to lose that in another.

I think it might help to see it as energy - energy that needs to be returned and reintegrated inside oneself. Each release increases the sense of integration over time.

Eventually we become whole and complete again, in our own space.

Wishing you well

Open *OK*

Synchronistically our new video out today touches on this to a degree...

Dear Open

Many thanks for the response. Your suggestions are very helpful, and I think I'd be able to go through the process. However, I'm also aware that healing and letting go can take some time. I wish I could easily switch it off but doing that is only deepening the wounds that I'm inflicting on myself. And I don't want to do that. I'm ok with the state of confusion I'm in. I need to find the source of pain so I could fully understand myself.

I started reading your book again, 5 gateways, and it's comforting in some ways.

It takes time to let go. To do that, I need to let go of the attachment that is so etched in my heart. Only time can tell. For now, I'm in the process of hurting. At least I'm aware of my feelings and I'm acknowledging each of them.
I cry and recognize the sadness and longing for healing. It's like an open wound in my heart that needs soothing.
This sadness is coming from my soul, feeling sorry that I can't seem to be in sync.
I appreciate the thought and time you spent in writing that response, Open.

With love and awe in things you do :-)

Hi Muffling Winds,

Well the good thing is, that even though you know you should give whatever it is up, you're not allowing mind to override what you actually feel. You get the sense you should let go, but simply deciding to do so, risks overriding some emotional/energetic tie. Which then risk creating a layer of identity - one which is in denial.

So what I would suggest is, taking yourself into a quiet place, visualise/feel giving up that aspect. The important thing is to contemplate all the possible repercussions in profound self honesty. What would it really mean? How would you genuinely feel? The allow yourself to feel into those inner vibrations.

It's some kind of 'source pain' that you're looking to find (as written about in 5GATEWAYS). Sometimes those vibrations can be very subtle in the beginning, because the emotional/energetic tie will have been buried deep in the psyche. But if you keep working with it, then it will reveal itself.

Once you've activated the source pain, then you can work through it as described in The Openhand 9-step Spiritual Healing Process.

It should help get into and clear the density. Then the key is to find an authentic aspect of beingness that wants to emerge and express outwards instead of the old behaviour pattern.

Here's a video we made which might offer some extra insight called "How to truly let go"...