The problem has been that masculine energy has gotten so easily distorted over the centuries. In it’s pure, aligned form the divine masculine is clear, wilful, passionate, protective, committed and focussed. However, when it gets distorted it can turn into domination, perversion, and aggression. This usually comes from some need to control the environment because of a need for a specific outcome.
So how can we heal it?
Understanding the Masculine Energy in its Pure Form
Firstly, we need to recognise that masculine energy in it’s pure form IS divine! It’s very common, particularly in spiritual circles, to strive for traits such as love, peace, compassion and acceptance. How often does will power, focus, passion and courage get overlooked! But these traits are needed too. They are deeply catalytic.
If I said the word ‘penetration’ to you now, how would you react? Tightness, perhaps even nausea? It’s a word that carries a lot of weight and is loaded with judgement. But what does penetration really mean? In the work of self-realisation we must use masculine energy to penetrate into our unconsciousness. It shines a light in the darkness and encourages us to ‘go deeper’. Where would we be without this? I suppose probably in comfortable denial, stuck in a bubble of ‘love and light’ but never able to face any of life’s obstacles.
On a more practical outer level we can use masculine energy to initiate change in our lives. To take that bold, but necessary step into the unknown. It is also needed to establish boundaries, asserting what is okay for you and what is not. This is particularly important for empaths and highly sensitive people. It can be so easy to lose yourself in others, particularly when you always see their point of view. The masculine energy protects you from this, establishing a boundary so that you remain clear in who you are.
Coming into alignment
I have met many women out there (men too) who subtly deny their masculine side, convincing themselves that it is too aggressive to assert themselves instead of simply trusting that what they’re getting is right for them. I would say there needs to be a recognition of balance here. Indeed, you draw to you exactly the right circumstances for you to come closer to yourself. But, there also needs to be an inquiry into why you’ve attracted it. Does it serve you to be accepting in this circumstance? Perhaps it does. Or, perhaps the right action is to stand your ground, asserting that what is happening is not okay.
I have also met many men (women too) who overuse their masculine side, seeking to control and dominate a situation in an effort to get something from it, even if it’s just an ego boost. I would say there definitely needs to be an expression of masculine energy when it wants to come through, but in a way that doesn’t seek to gain power over someone else. Can you stay in your own power without disempowering someone else? Why would you need to disempower somebody else when you can find all the strength you need inside? It can be a challenge, especially when it is so ingrained into our psyche. But it is needed to heal both men and women. It even comes down to the language we use. Can we admit we have a problem without needing to change it? Can we take responsibility for our own emotional pain? This is where true strength and courage lie.
I’d love to hear how you feel about what you’ve read here. Does it push your buttons? What have been your experiences with masculine energy?
With love as always,
Richard is a spiritual facilitator with Openhand. He is a carer, psychologist, spiritual coach and writer. He has worked close to death for 7 years and is passionate about helping people to move on in a conscious way, even though society is geared to fight against death. He offers services in Spiritual Facilitation and Conscious Dying on his website Back to the Source and writes regular articles on his blog.