Yes. It's kind of important to be willing to let go of the story - our own and others' - to truly walk this path, isn't it?  However compelling, however beautiful, it's just a story. And the more we attach to it,  the more we hold to it, rather than letting something crumble away that is given to crumble away, then to that degree we limit our own path, our own sovereignty.
I've experienced this kind of soul-wrenching loss myself - a number of times, in this lifetime and others. And each time it's taken me to the very core of my experience. To the deepest level of surrender. And that's when the 'gifts' have come. It reminds me - yet again - of the quote that is at the foot of my email signature at the moment. Means a lot to me. I think I'll share it here:'
If we meet this world unprotected, our heart gets broken over and over and over. This is actually a gift. You let the world touch you, it shatters you open, and it shatters you open, and it shatters you open. And here you are, shining. After our heart is broken open a thousand times and all of the contents emptied out, there’s just this shining left'.

Living from this shining, for me, is where it's at - and it's worth any degree of breaking open. All love and blessings. <3