I think all too often we apply the term "surrender" to what actually suits the ego and not the soul.
If you want to truly talk to the God within you, you've got to be prepared to go out on a limb,
to break past the physical identification, to confront the material in the most intimate and sometimes savage of ways. That's when you truly explode the myth that the ego self is. Then all manner of things will light the way.
But you have to be prepared to first break through your comfort zone...