I like this article.

Something about the 'not knowing' spiked for me. Its a place that's not always easy to be in necessarily. I can understand why people might want others to direct them when in that place. Something I found is that usually its exactly right, and if I hold to (honour) the not knowing then often it pushes buttons of most people around me. Now that I feel more comfortable in myself with holding that space, people seem less bothered than previously, or if they are then I don't feel the tightness of needing to placate them as in the past. many ways to be a mirror.