Hi LJ,

I would strongly suggest working with one of the Openhand Facilitators. Since you're based the US, I would suggest Jen...
http://www.openhandweb.org/node/7668

Acceptance of what is arising is a big part of the story. But whilst in the pain, then to look for the sense of self which is not the experience. All experience is transient. But the true self is not. It is the inviolable source of all experience.

So whilst in the experience, and when you've accepted it/honoured it, then look for the key that opens the doorway internally into the more disassociated state - It might be a word, a symbol, a vision or a creature/power animal. For me the word was "Open", which caused me to open into the sense of true self - to let go of any suffering.

You are not this experience!

Open