My dearest soul friend taught me one (of many) deep lesson(s):
How to be grateful for what is difficult, painful, out of the ordinary, upsetting, annoying, all that is negative.

Can we say thanks tonight for all that, too?

Being grateful FOR something is a first step towards a deeper kind of surrender and gratitude.

I'd say that's when your liver starts smiling for you, so to speak: and living in the state of gratitude begins.