Hey Marye,
The topic feels like a strong current right now on the Openhand site! Maybe we are both tuning into it! Haha.

Your sharing made me remember how as a little girl I stopped calling my parents "mom" and "dad" one day. I came up with nicknames I use still now. I deeply feel I do not have parents, nor am I an orphan. I do not connect to the concept of being somebody's child. It didn't prevent me from falling for expectations of myself as a parent though, but it's all good.

I'm really enjoying feeling into being undefined now.