In reply to by Richard W

Hey Rich, thank you for sharing <3 really helpful to read about your experiences and the time it took. For me it happens in a similar time window (years) and for a long time I felt I was doing something wrong. Beside the fact that there's been a great deal of avoiding making a choice, I think I've also already been unwinding the relationship while still being in it. But now I feel real change is coming.

I can really relate to that feeling of loneliness within the relationship, somehow I keep thinking it will get worse when being alone although deep down I know what you say is true for me too; that I just look for something in the other that I can only give myself. What you say about the emergence of sovereignty and being whole really speaks to me as well, I already start to feel that, just as the freeing up of space and energy for other connections.