Feeling the tightness; how to express it?


Firstly I would like to thank you for all the work you have been sharing. I feel I have really benefited from it.

I have got a question with regards to expressing feelings emotions etc (I have difficulty right now on how to express myself). I read many times in your articles Open you write about feeling through the tightness and expressing it. While I have made a lot of progress from somatic psychotherapy, and I can now feel sensations in my body, what I find difficult to apply is to express what needs to be expressed.

I can feel the tightness in my chest while meditating, or when indulging in food, for example, and I do spend time to feel through it. However, I cannot recognise what is to be expressed, and how. So I keep breathing into it for a while and that's it. When I sit in stillness, very frequently, my foot starts to tremble; could that be a starting point on understanding what needs to be expressed?

Any comments would be highly appreciated.

I want to say thank you once more, and maybe see you in person at some point :)

Best regards,

Alexandros :)


Hi Alexandros - thanks for posting it's a great question :-)

Many people struggle to find their 'tightness' in the beginning. It's because people are so often used to suppressing feelings, pushing them down and bottling them up. What then happens is people build mental programs from which they live - like a thick comfortable layer on top to distract.

So you really have to work at this in the beginning.

Sitting in stillness is a great way to begin. Then to watch what happens. Like for example your foot trembling. You could explore than - what wants to happen, how does it want to go? Just allow it to unfold by itself.

Another way is to feel into the body and then make some kind of sound - any sound that sings into it, where you can start to feel vibrations in it (and it doesn't matter how 'weird' the sounds).

A very effective way we use on the Openhand Course work is to play emotive music and then to express to it through movement - you don't have to consider it dancing, but that may happen (as long as you don't let mind control the movement).

It will take patience and persistence. You have to work into any subtle vibrations progressively.

Best wishes

Open *OK*

Hi there,

Reading this thread I was reminded of the following quote:

"Do you have the patience to wait
Until your mud settles and the water is clear?
Can you remain unmoving
Till the right action arises by itself?"

Lao Tsu, Tao Te Ching

With love, Fiona

Hi Open, Trinity and Fiona,

Thank you very much for your beautiful and spot-on comments!

Open, I will try it out and see how it goes, thank you :)

Trinity, Indeed this piece of advice is relevant to me because many times I am a bit impatient (linked to the quote shared by Fiona) and want to proceed and progress and learn more!! I don’t know whether it is ‘spiritual bypassing’ but a part of it has definitely something to do with my enthusiasm about learning and growing.

Also, what you said Trinity reminded me of an experience I had once while listening to the golden liquid meditation. At the end, I experienced (most probably) the loudest cry in my life, which came out effortlessly, but at the same time this expression had a lot ‘friction’,(that is how I imagine it) i.e. wasn’t easy to happen at all. However I did not intend this, nor did I make any effort for it to happen. This cry was so loud I thought that it could be heard outside my house in the neighbourhood! Afterwards, I felt peaceful and more present in the moment.

Also got excited to read that it sounds like the soul is yearning to break out. Thank you :)


"Do you have the patience to wait
Until your mud settles and the water is clear?
Can you remain unmoving
Till the right action arises by itself?"

How beautifully spot-on this quote is. Thank you for sharing. :)

It was indeed uplifting to read your comments.

Best wishes!

With gratitude,