Recently I found myself with lots of solitary time. Part of me really cherishes such quiet time and is increasingly at ease with my own company, while another part of me at times feels the pain of what Jung termed "existential aloneness". I see existential aloneness as the sense of separation that we experience when we incarnate into human form. We feel a separation from Source. I believe this is necessary so we can find our selves again and know who we truly are. There needs to be relativity, we cannot know our light until we know our darkness. "I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments" Oriah Mountain Dreamer.
In truth I have all I need
I am aware of a neediness that is sometimes evident in me, an expectation that the world and the people around me should be different and fulfill my apparent needs. Ultimately, I am also aware that even in this dense place, I always have exactly what I need and when I am open, support comes in unexpected ways, whether it be a ladybug, a sunset, an angelic floating feather or a synchronistic meeting with another. When I am open to receive without expectation or need, I dance with the universal energy and magic happens, I have everything that I need and more.
When I become identified, resist and get absorbed in the pain or loneliness, I cause myself suffering. I recognise the importance of being with such painful feelings, whatever they might be, exploring them and finding the root cause.
Through such honest exploration I can move through and beyond the source pain and find joy with the realisation that we are All One. I become whole within myself!
Most important relationship
The most important relationship we have is that with ourselves, this is the basis from which all other relationships emanate. A positive relationship with myself evokes a sense of completeness, that I can then bring into my interactions with others. Time alone helps me find, and get to know, my true self and connect with my authentic beingness without external distractions. I am able to give so much more of myself as a result of spending invaluable time alone.
I like these words by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
“In order to converse with the wild feminine*, a woman (or a man) must temporarily leave the world and inhabit a state of aloneness in the oldest sense of the word. Long ago the word alone was treated as 2 words – all one. To be all one meant to be wholly one, to be in oneness, either essentially or temporarily. That is precisely the goal of solitude, to be all one.” *Within the context I interpreted wild feminine as the intuitive aspect of self.
Message from The Little Prince
The evening after I wrote this article, I was synchronistically drawn to watch the movie The Little Prince based on the novel by Antoine De Saint-Exupery. Discovering the movie felt like a beautiful affirmation, illustrating that the Universe provides answers and what I might need. There were many themes around being alone within the movie. The little girl gets upset when those she loves are about to leave. The pilot in the movie tells her "Look with your heart and I will always be with you" and the fox can see the Prince when he looks with the heart and will never be lonely again, for as it states in the story...
- "It is only with the heart that you can see rightly. What is essential is invisible to the eye."
And of course no matter how alone or lonely we might feel, when we look with our hearts there is an angelic presence that surrounds us and gives me comfort! I feel immense gratitude for the beauty of angels in my life! It inspired me to share this Sarah McLachlan - "Angel" video...
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