Hello dear travelers,
one of my best friends is very pessimist. I just started a new project with him and this is leading us to spend lots of time alone with each other. When we're hanging out with our group of friends this doesn't bother me, but being alone with him is becoming fatiguing.
We may be talking about trivial or existencial things - he always presents a negative view, although he does it in a calm and conformed manner. I try to offer the truth, but he obviously don't want to hear and keeps telling me unfounded reasons why it's better to be negative (and I can easily see where this reflects in his life).
So today I said "I'm sorry man, but you're always pessimist. This is getting annoying!". He felt embarrassed and agreed, but nothing really has changed.
I certainly feel like I'm resisting this aspect of him, but when we're together I just can't stop and sit in silence, so I feel locked in the situation. My vibe lowers too and I notice low patterns of thoughts.
I love him from the depths of my heart and I want to work with him, but I'm not sure anymore!