How to let go of perfectionism and self-blame?

Submitted by Naty on Mon, 12/14/2015 - 16:53

Hi,
I have been struggling with this and would love to learn to break free from this way of thinking:

"If only I hadn´t done that" or "I should have chosen diffrently and this situation would have developed much more favorably" or "It is my fault that people involved feel distressed - they are reflecting something to me."...

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Naty Tue, 12/15/2015 - 19:56

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"Accept yourself as you are, right now, in this moment. Then simply ask the question: "how can I grow?""
YES, that is what to focus on.

"Let yourself be more centred in the body than the mind. It should help."
Yes. And being in nature instead of the city.

Namaste

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Open Mon, 12/14/2015 - 20:34

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Hi Natalia,

Sounds like you're working through with realisations - wonderful :-)

It might help to reflect on the purpose of life itself. In so doing, you might see that's it's not about doing this or that, about making the right or the wrong choice. It's all about becoming an ever finer expression of the One.

But two important things with this...
- You can NEVER make a wrong choice. As long that is, if you learn from the choices you make - if you evolve and grow
- You will never be perfect (in terms of aligned expression). Because you can always become more aligned. So give up trying. Accept yourself as you are, right now, in this moment. Then simply ask the question: "how can I grow?"

The whole universe will reflect back to you how you can grow - that's what it does!

Finally, the universe happened. And without you choosing it, it has happened through you. It is constantly happening through you and it is NOT your fault!

You'll have all kinds of inner distortion, which will affect the flow, sometimes creating disharmony, but it's not your fault. All you can do then, is feel into the distortions and work through them. To become more aligned. In which case, life feels ever more sublime.

If you find yourself over-actively judging yourself, mostly it's just the mind playing games. Don't try to stop it, but come more into your heart and let go there - feel into the heart. Let yourself be more centred in the body than the mind. It should help.

Namaste

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Naty Mon, 12/14/2015 - 18:02

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well, I think I am already sucessfully letting go of that. I feel I should just stop pushing myself into perfectionism and rest. And so I will stop attracting psychic attack to myself.
I asked this question rashly as well. Actually, thank you very much for your latest newsletter, I found there a lot for myself. Timely again. When I went through the newsletter with my eyes, I got very intense chills looking at the article about being an empath. Have read a half so far and cried. Yes, it can be so intense as you describe, I felt that way the last week when I made "the wrong decision" and went for a visit. At least I discovered ow much I am empathic, telepathic, and sensitive to environments on the visit. Now I need to just recover and move on freely. And I will read through your whole article... Though it made me think that I should have waited for your article and go for a visit then and all would be much better now, LOL... Namaste and much Love and gratitude, Natalia