It's a great question and one of those immensely challenging situations. And what it does most of all, is kind of 'call your bluff' about who you really think you are. Are you being an expression of the One beyond all attachment? How is your soul being bought right now?

Let me put it like this: you hold out a hand to someone who is sinking, yet you're not standing on firm ground yourself. What's more, because they trust you and have taken your hand, you give them the erroneous belief that they're now safe.

You have to be the solid rock - whole and complete, within yourself. You can't save anyone if you're not solid yourself. If your soul can be bought, then it can bleed energy. I know this may sound really harsh, cold even, but I assure you it is not.

If I am solid as a rock, in any given situation, even as my loved ones are being challenged or in some kind of peril, only then am I really able to help.

If you have this fixed energetic bond, then it becomes a co-dependency. And if the other goes down energetically, then it takes you down with it.

But being the solid rock doesn't make us cold - not at all. It provides the capacity to keep holding the energy, no matter what is going on. In which case, you're encouraging the other to see the light in you and find it in themselves. And it's not about how intellectually old the other person is. Who knows, perhaps your daughter - as a soul - is even older than you!

Cutting the fixed bond doesn't mean you cut the compassion. Not at all. It means your soul is not governed by the actions of another. It means you're actually able to give more, not less.

But yes, I'm not saying it's easy. Mastery never is!

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