Until the soul becomes fully self realised - realising of the One Self - then it will attach in particular circumstances of life and fragment. This causes pain and tightness in the various layers of the bodymind such as physical existential matters; emotional attachment in relationships; or the mental tightness of trying to control an outcome. Society teaches people to surpress and dampen this pain through avoidance of soft comfort, which leads to a lesser life of imprisoned conditioned behaviours.