Beautiful conclusion, Open and Richard, to the exploration of Ra gaslighting in the academy, sovereignty and taking full ownership of one's process. I resonate what Nikki expressed, feeling the subtle whispers of distortion, twisting and digging and seeking vulnerability. I was surprised to find I still had a faint externalisation of the paternal/maternal axis following recent events and challenges. A small part of me was using the crutch of what I saw as more evolved beings as providing a degree of comfort and reassurance. While honouring the journeys of all concerned without judgement, I fell into a deep void of, 'who am I ?', asked with searing honesty and confrontation. And the answer that I am not defined by external factors hung as a deep well of possibility, one that was maybe obscured by debris, but nevertheless, one that only I and I alone could step forward and claim. And even the 'I' in that feels distorted. While the enormity of this lands as a felt sense rather than an intellectual enquiry, the simplicity of it also strikes me. What is mine is mine, full stop. I can empathise and support and mirror and expect nothing nothing less in return, without overstepping the boundary into interference. I can let go of any perceived contracts to fix others or the need for others to support me. I discern, take what works for me and keep peripheral vision active. But I move forward without expectation or subtle attachment to parental validation. Thank you all for this valuable debate.