I just want to say thank you Edu, your post has made me think deeply about my own relationship. Only, in my case, I may be the one who could be diagnosed with so called "borderline personality disorder". I worked in the mental health service for 10 years and worked with several BPD patients (the incurables) and it never occurred to me that I could be just like them. I remember when the health service invented the term BPD, we had a team meeting and a very open minded psychiatrist (unusual) said that everybody in the room had a personality disorder of some kind (according to this new method of diagnosing mental illness) - in the old days it was just known as a personality ;-) But to get back to your problem and my own relationship issues - I always assumed that when my partner and I had a big "fight", it was always HER fault, never mine. On the other hand she can be very moody and judgemental so maybe we both have a "personality disorder". I need to do some deep self reflection. thank you again.

Shantiram