When you mentioned the phrase of "not fulfilling her perceived role," I could feel softening in me, as well. So, there was actually a perception of what the role should be all about, and then probably forming identity around it. But, as the role is carried on by someone else, it can precipitate a greater degree of letting go...

That's understandable, thanks for greater clarity and practical example. 🙏🏽

Best wishes 💚

miha