Thanks for your insight Jen. I have considered this option. At this point in time I feel the friction that path would create may catalyse an event in my life that I am not ready to face without the Universe pushing me under the bus , so to speak. My/Our relationship is not built on a rock and it is complicated. I will be giving the matter some thought but am finding it tricky and feel very vulnerable. I also buy meat for our pet cats - it seems like a Catch 22 situation. On this planet it seems that survival involves suffering in one way or another.