Hi Mantian,

Do things to which you are attracted to and one that makes you feel energetic.The more you do the more you forget about the negative past.
I avoid going to places and meeting people with whom I feel uncomfortable.I want to be myself.I feel fully present at places where I want to be.Many people note this and get attracted towards you....so in saying that you are shining light on others as well.Completely forget about who thinks what....and be yourself.

Vimmi