Thank you Open - yes this all makes very clear sense and is very helpful!! =)

Feel how it all just comes round and round, again and again, picking up little pieces to be integrated...little pieces to let go of...when I see it this way it gives me such a sense of acceptance.

Focus and surrender - and thank you for reminding me that the surrender would be into my own feelings as you said, "exactly at the point where you perceive a person in the outer world needs a particular response from you". Yes this is when I am LEAST in contact with my own inner feelings and get caught in meeting perceived needs and staying out of conflict.

Beautiful! I am so grateful for this site and all the energy that goes into it - I never get over feeling grateful that I can share these confusions, these places that I get stuck and receive such a bounty of gifts.

Much love,
Jenny