Hi LtJ,

I love your inquiry by the way - keep going. Keep digging. It'll take you ever deeper and deeper.
But also the inquiry must be a feeling observation practical one - not just intellectual. Have the inquiry but then ask, "show me" and following the thread of experience.

You said...

In line with the experience of a you and a me and an anyone being an illusion of separation,

I'd say, "you" and "me" is NOT an illusion of separation. Where "you" and "me" are unique souls. If that were to be only illusion, then there'd be no relativity of consciousness, therefore no experience at all.

It's about holding two apparantly contradictory truths simultaneously - which needs quite a unravelling of singular truths in the mind...

At our core, you and are are "the One". AND, you and I, in manifested form, are unique.
0=1 + -1

It's a dynamic equilibrium between both sides of the equation in constant flux. Both conditions held simultaneously.
It's what the Brahmans call, "the big out breath and in breath".
It's the only way you can get awareness creating from nothing.

So I would say work to unbuild singular truths in any given moment.
Work more with possibilities and probabilities, but not absolutes. You can't have the absolute in the relativity!

Open 🙏