I felt pulled to weigh in on this perspective from my own unfolding experience.  For the longest time my sense of agency was external focused.  If I did this right or perfect I would get the love that I desired and yearned for internally.  I would miraculously feel whole and complete.  If I got the perfect job, then I would feel whole and complete.  I can continue to share these different manifestations, but I feel you get the point.  With my sense of agency externally focused there was this insatiable energy that built up over time.  Essentially becoming the dog chasing its own tale.  I now realize that this was part of my path to arrive we I feel I am today.  Over the years I've been learning how to bring that sense of agency internally, to me it feels like "soul sovereignty", taking my power back one conscious choice and expression at a time.

Something has shifted with this newfound awareness.  I can feel my being strengthening with each passing day.  Where I used to not share because there was some distortion around sharing and having to get it "right" or to look or be perceived a certain way.  I now realize that was my ego wanting to be in the driver's seat and keep me "safe" from some imaginary monster that would get me from speaking my truth.  I've learned that I'm the gate keeper to my own authenticity.  Many filters needed to dissolve before I've arrived at this place. 

To me validation seeking is a program that is running in most of us because of separation consciousness.  We are looking to complete that feedback look in an artificial and superficial way.  Seeking a happiness that we soon realize is transient.  The goal posts are constantly moving when seeking validation from the external.  Eventually reaching a point of exhaustion and throwing up one's hands, I don't wish to travel down this road any longer.

As I strengthen inside my being, my confidence and courage grow in parallel.  I'm beginning to embody soul more fully. So, when I speak and share it is coming from a place deep within and less from the mind.  I'm learning to trust this process and this part of my journey.

Lastly, when I share from this unfiltered and authentic place within, I notice that it spikes things in others awareness.  When someone shares something back with me about what I share, I sit with it for a moment.  Because at times the ego wants to hijack it and inflate itself.  The ego wants to own the experience, I can feel this distortion happening in real time, but not always though.  It's a continual space of inquiry for me as I learn to express from this new way of being.  I'm free to be who I'm becoming in any given moment.  So, when someone shares something with me about what I shared or who I am, I pause and thank them for the reflection.  To me these are the feedback loops that you speak of Open.  I use them as signpost to keep on going, to continue to follow the path of soul.

A Valentine Writing that I wrote in 2019 and I wanted to share it with everyone here on Valentines Day❤️

Love is a mystery to the human mind.

It is packaged and sold as a commodity.

Being sought after by many to only slip away through our fingers.

Or at least what we thought, what was love to us.  

Distorted by all because that's all we saw.

This illusion of love makes us feel good inside only for a moment.

We held onto it as tight as a 3-year-old holds onto its favorite baby.

Attached to this transient feeling inside, hoping for it to never die. 

It dies time and time again, and here we all are right back at the starting line under our own two feet.

The mystery of love is a shapeshifter, it's always changing.

How does one keep up with this shapeshifter?

We don't, we pause for a moment and turn inside and ask the question, "what is love to me?".

It is an unconditional energy that weaves together the very fabric of our reality.

It just is, nothing needs to be bought on special days to express something that just is.

Our minds are attached to the many distorted versions of what love is, that has been fed to us from birth.

Coming back to love being a mystery to the mind.

It is time to open our hearts and let the unconditional love of the universe fill us up. 

The void inside closes for a fleeting moment, but not a moment lost in time.

A building block to creating what we all know in our hearts, what love truly is.

It is infinite.

It cannot be bought or sold, but it is always available to being shared with a stranger, a child, an animal, a partner, a family member and a friend.

Go inside your heart and feel what love is for you and share it with the whole world with all you got!!

With love, gratitude and hugs,

Chad❤️🙏