The interesting thing was in this case, that just the realisation that the pain had a karmic source, since I was blaming, enabled me to overcome my conditioning and to accept and honour the pain. If I had projected it I would have been in the loop of "what shall I do about this?" and of victimisation. I might then have distanced myself from both the projection and the victimisation or I would have smoothed over and denied the feelings. And not got anywhere. But I was able to acknowledge the feelings and didn't feel silly about them being so strong for an apparently minor reason. And it worked! It was a really good experience.

In fact, it doesn't really matter whether it's karmic or any other pain, it's really a question of approaching the pain with a different mind set, of owning and feeling it.

Still, it would interest me why karmic pain in particular leads to blaming another, rather than suppressing, denying, lulling etc.