this article has such important guidance and truth. i'm starting to slowly get it. after decades of running away but actually just running deeper into my own distortions, i can see now that changing the outcome doesn't change anything. but chamging how i'm being and reacting feels like the right way now. choosing the highest expression and rightness of being feels like the freedom i've been searching for my whole life. i just have to keep choosing it until it becomes my new reaction. doing it this way has got me involving my shadow side now, having dialogue with it instead of rejecting it and pushing it away. teaching myself how to be whole? what an amazing concept that transforms the frustration, pain and despair to excitment and adventure; where can i go from here? it feels like possibility where before it was a dead-end. long road ahead still but i think i'm starting to get it. WOW!