Thank you so much Réka, this is such an inspiring thread. Jane, it's tremendous that you have brought up this topic, thank you! Open, too, you have already written a lot about this, but there are always new and deep insights.

I am now no longer young, and can now see how cut off I was from my body, my sexuality and the earth. I now realise that I used to be frigid and at the same time very seductive, and unaware of both. I thought that was the way to be (I mean seductive) and that it was the only way I could be seen and acknowledged by men.

The more I have changed my focus from looking outside of myself for love etc., the more I have learned to love myself, to see myself, to be comfortable in my own company, the more I can let go and surrender, also in sexual intimacy. And the less afraid I am of opening myself to love and to the danger of being hurt by loss of the loved one(s).

When I see young as well as older women today who undergo all sorts of torture to be better, more attractive, more in, at last accepted, they are probably as frozen as I was once, driven and desperate.