Hi Open,
Working with control is a big one for me. The anger comes from this but it does arise much more subtly which I really have to pay attention to in order to catch it. My oldest daughter had a big break down the other day feeling very controlled and expressing that everyone expects her to "go down this path with walls on either side" but she feels like it is not the path for her and that no one understands her. It brings up a lot for me, how I felt at that age, powerless and alone. I remembered getting sore throats and strep numerous times as a kid. Now I can see that it came from not expressing. We talked about working together to break this pattern of control that is so strong within our family. I encouraged her to keep letting me know when she is feeling this as I can miss the aspects of my controlling nature that are so ingrained in me. At times it seems like a monumental task woven into so many layers of myself, I wonder if I can ever break through the control. I will just keep working with it.
Thank you for the support.
Kim