Ever considered the nature of confidence? It seems to me that when people speak of it, what they're actually speaking of, is building the sense of their separate identity - their ego - up. But true empowerment comes in quite the reverse way: you break down the ego by not being unduly concerned about how you come across - not caring what others think of you. This brings you to a place of absolute vulnerability to the moment - you're okay for literally anything to happen, because you've tested yourself and broken yourself down of any need for it to go a particular way. Then you find absolute awesomeness simply arises from the ashes of burned out identity. You're especially okay to be soft in the moment, and your expression still carries weight. Now this is true empowerment.