Exploding Fear in 5 Steps...Liberate Yourself in Any Given Situation

Submitted by Open on Mon, 08/28/2017 - 07:12

Fear is what so frequently holds people back on the spiritual path. Fear of what might happen if you take a certain step. Fear of completely letting go and where that might lead. Fear of hurting others by being truly authentic. Fear invades the mind, emotions and body. But to simply 'over-write it' with positive intentions or infusing 'love and light' can lead only to more layers of identity. The liberated flow of the soul is not something to intention, or create by a veneer of gloss. It just is, and it simply arises when we open the space for it. When the soul invites authentic choice, fear can often also arise. So how do you deal with it most effectively?...

Fear only ever comes up, because it is ALREADY within

Firstly, it's important to say that you cannot 'spread fear' by raising the topic of something fearful - like fear of death for example. In a fully self-realised being, there is no fear, because there is always realisation of the One Self, which lives on through eternity. So fear can only activate where it already lies.

In other words, fear only ever comes up because it is already within. People carry it, often subconsciously. And while it exists, it's always going to be limiting, even if the tendency is to temporarily white-wash over it with some positive gloss.

In the Openhand Approach, the only truly effective and lasting way to overcome fear (to dissolve it), is by the direct confrontation of it; to get into it, and deeply explore it.

Evolutionary growth through learning and expression

In spiritual circles and mainstream motivation groups, it's so often the case to "imagine the best possible outcome of any given situation". Then to work to create that. But whose creating? Who is imagining the "best possible outcome?" To me, it can only be an ego wanting a particular result.


In the Openhand perspective on the soul, there is only evolutionary growth through learning and expression. When the soul encounters a crossroads in life, with one direction marked 'hell' and the other 'heaven', the choice is made not based on what the most beautiful or desirable outcome might be; it is based on what can most be learned. And if that's in some temporary kind of 'hell', then so be it. When the soul confronts some kind of situation, which causes it to contract in tightness, there represents a golden opportunity to deal with unrealised limitation.

In so doing, when the realisation through the challenge happens, it always comes with the most incredible expansion. As you shake off that which previously held you back, then your soul soars like an eagle. There's immense joy that you reclaimed a lost aspect of Self. How do you achieve this most effectively next time you encounter fear?

Bringing fear to the surface: imagine the Worst Possible Outcome

To me, I witness that fear mostly arises because in some way, we've unconsciously distanced ourselves from the worst possible outcome of a given situation. Because it's apparently too difficult to deal with, even to contemplate, the tendency is to sweep it under the rug. This has a very limiting internal effect - it creates polarity. In other words, it creates a small "I" identity, which is living in fear of that possibility and can now be victimised by it; in which case you are not being The One, which can be completely okay in ALL situations. People live their lives and shape whole realities based on such avoidance - like leaving an unfulfilling relationship for example, or ending a job which doesn't serve.

Fear represents a golden opportunity, but only if we're prepared to turn right into it, at the time it is arising, and work deeply through it. And the most effective way I've found of doing that, is to contemplate the worst possible outcome from any given situation. So you literally imagine what could likely happen if you take the step your soul is guiding you into.

Explode your fear in 5 steps

Here's how to effectively deal with your fear in 5 steps...

  • 1. Locate your internal tightness: When you contemplate the worst possible outcome, then all your subconscious fear and constriction come up. What you're really looking for is the internal tightness - maybe it's in your head, your solar plexus or sacrum? Feel it, work into it, and above all, express it out into the world. This might be crying, screaming, shouting, or vigorous movement.
  • 2. Become as-one with the pain: Now what's happening, is you're actually becoming as-one with the pain, with the fear. If you keep working with it, then there comes a point where you tire of it, where you've had enough of it, where you realise the baggage itself that you're carrying around, is far worse than the worst possible outcome. And you might aswell let it go. Thus, you're empowering yourself by becoming The One in it.
  • 3. Be prepared to completely fall apart: You must be prepared to completely fall apart. It's like you've been controlling who you are, hanging onto who you should be - to what is expected of you. If you're to truly penetrate through this, it will often feel like falling apart. And here's the paradox of a liberated soul - that's entirely okay!
  • 4. Become The One: As you fall apart in it, as you really let go, then feel deeply through it into the sense of emptiness - into The Void. It feels like you're touching the pure presence of complete acceptance. You're now opening into infinite potential - the Source, from which authentic soul arises.
  • 5. Unleash the freedom of the Soul: Finally, and here's the great part, look for the natural expression of joy, expansiveness and rightness of the soul that wants to come through. Dance with it; sing and shout with it; give it wings by expressing it out into the world.

A practical example...

I recall giving a presentation to a crowded hall in Glastonbury several years ago. I tend not to plan such presentations other than the production of some slides and maybe the odd video or two. I always knew, that in coming from the source, all I needed was a thread - just a word or a feeling - from which to begin. This particular time I began with a video and as it drew to a close, I was watching for the first words to drop into mind, a place to begin, a thread to pick up. Usually they came but this time nothing - nothing at all. As the credits to the film rolled, still nothing. As the silence and expectation of the audience grew louder in my awareness still nothing. As I stood up, still nothing. All the while I was watching my inner feelings, any arising tightness - and softening into them. Yes I was feeling nervous, realsing a subconscious subtle desire for the people to appreciate me and my point of view. As that penny dropped, why would I limit myself by needing some kind of appreciation or outcome? What was wrong with how I was being? Even if nothing came? Even if I stood there in complete silence?

Time seemed to stretch right into eternity. Without need of outcome at all, any sense of fear, doubt and disbelief disappeared. I was infinitely vulnerable, and it felt completely blissful. So blissful that it felt humorous. And so I felt to begin by cracking a joke about the Pope, who just happened to be visiting the UK at the time. After the slightly uneasy silence, the audience fell about laughing and the presentation then flowed effortlessly.

Increasingly empowered, joyful and harmonious

I'm not saying it's necessarily easy to approach your fears in this way. There will always be a myriad of opt-outs - comfortable other solutions that placate the fear rather than dealing with it. There'll be lots of distractions and plenty of people advising how to make the best of the situation. But if you have the courage to turn into your fears in this way, you will explode the myth that they are.

Because you are The One, which has created everything by which to know itself, and therefore ultimately, fears nothing.

So work to become the One within your fears, and they will surely burst like an exploding balloon. And your soul will expand out with empowered and joyful liberation. And what's more, you won't have to keep remanifesting those fearful situations. By working through your fears, your life becomes increasingly empowered, joyful and harmonious. I wish you an empowered journey!

PS - If you resonate with the approach to fear, but are uncertain how to apply it, then you might like to get involved with Openhand's Events and Courses

In loving support

Open
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I totally resonate with this approach to fear. Thank you for timely post, Open! I was exploring and contemplating about fear or fearful situations and intentional manifestation of such situations. For example, it seems i have a fear of downing and had close encounters with drowning this lifetime. I can feel tightness around it and well aware of it. So on a recent trip to the beach, I felt while in the ocean, not that i was avoiding going to the water but it seems i was overly cautious and seemed to have had conflicting feelings. One was to explore fear cautiously but in a limited way by staying closer to the shallow waters. The other impulse was to go deeper intentionally possibly without feeling any ground under the feet. I went with the first option at the time so feel like i haven't fully exploded the fear.
So my question is the following. Do we need intentionally manifest the situations where we can explore and burst the fear or it just happens naturally? I resonate more with natural approach but the something wants to intentionally manifest to bring about the fearful situation, probably coming from ego? But how can it be - ego trying to burst itself?
BTW, all the true fearful situations of drowning in this lifetime happened naturally for me without any kind of intention. Also, I feel like there maybe other ways of dealing with fear like contemplating about it as mentioned in this article or spontanious karmic experience as i witnessed on some Openhand retreats. Just some explorations ...

With gratitude,
Anatoly

Wow, I think I will have to bookmark this article! There is so much resonance for me here, yet at the same time the realisation that I still have so many fear layers left to work through (sometimes I feel like an onion made of multiple fear layers). This particularly resonated:
‘There will always be a myriad of opt-outs - comfortable other solutions that placate the fear rather than dealing with it. There'll be lots of distractions and plenty of people advising how to make the best of the situation.’
Oh yes, I am a master at placating and easily influenced by other people’s opinions and advice! Yet, at the same time I can see my courage to confront the fears is gradually strenghtening. Recently I had a profound experience confronting pain and it exploding, and was amazed how in a time-span of less than 45 minutes it is possible to move from the most excruciating pain to feeling absolutely elated, as if the pain never really happened or existed. From that experience it almost seems silly not to confront the pain and stay in agony/fear.
In the end, a lot of my fear seems to boil down to the fear of death, or actually the fear of a physically painful death most of all. I am becoming better at working through ‘what is the worst possible outcome’ as long as that isn’t physical death. As soon as a painful physical death peeps its head around the corner there is tightness and I instantly feel like opting out or rather running away from whatever could possibly cause it (even just a faint karmic memory of it). Still I am finding it hard to imagine that I could ever reach a point that I would be so self-realised that there would be no more fear of the pain of physical death. But I like the idea that ‘fear can only activate where it already lies.’ And so, ‘fear only ever comes up because it is already within you.’ So I guess there are still more fear layers to peel off here!

With all my fear,

Marije

So this is just perfect as I am exploring a change of focus from a lifetime of fixing machinery to doing something like energetic bodywork for my "job" Holy Shit the fear of the unknown is breathtaking. How will I pay the bills? Who is going to even want my services in central WI? Hell right now I don't have much to offer anyone. So for the short term this is about letting the next step unfold in front of me. And trying to be ready and aware of it when the opportunity comes.

Great that you're tuning in guys - we're bound to get loads from it!

Anatoly you said...

    "So my question is the following. Do we need intentionally manifest the situations where we can explore and burst the fear or it just happens naturally? I resonate more with natural approach but the something wants to intentionally manifest to bring about the fearful situation, probably coming from ego? But how can it be - ego trying to burst itself?

My observation is it's best to let it come up naturally, as it surely will. And with regards to the second part, it's classic that when one understands the rightness of the path (ie through fear in this case), an aspect of the intellect will try to own it. In 5GATEWAYS I speak of this as a 'shadow identity' - a shadow, or echo, of the soul. So best to just let it unfold.

Marije you said...

    "Recently I had a profound experience confronting pain and it exploding, and was amazed how in a time-span of less than 45 minutes it is possible to move from the most excruciating pain to feeling absolutely elated, as if the pain never really happened or existed. From that experience it almost seems silly not to confront the pain and stay in agony/fear."

Yeah! Totally awesome! Exactly! That's the point - when you really turn full-on into the pain and fear, then you can 'explode' it quickly and expand out the other side. But you must really go into it and fully express it for it to work properly.

Treebrother - "who will pay the bills?" Had that one many times. But what I've witnessed countless times, both in myself and others, is that when you truly follow the flow of the soul, then you get exactly what you need. Not more, but definitely not less!

Wishing you all well

Open *OK*

    So, I have a challenge for you all.
    How about we do away with fear.
    What would your life be like?
    What possibilities might be open to you?
    How magical and adventurous might your life become?
    What might you discover about yourself?

    You can do it.
    You can just decide.
    Right now,
    that whenever fear raises its head,
    instead of retracting back,
    you can see it instead as a golden opportunity
    and turn right into it.

    Explode the myth that it always was.
    That you are much greater than this limitation,
    this box, that you confine your soul within.
    You could look deeply into it's eyes,
    actually make that choice that activates the most fear,
    and walk directly into it - take that choice.

    Very few have the courage to do this.
    But if you do, you'll discover something profound about life:
    that fear and liberation are two sides of the same coin;
    that the ultimate liberation of soul,
    comes from exploding the sum of your fears.

    In many ways, fear IS the pathway to full awakening.
    Because it's the only thing that limits the amount of love you can embody.

    So, I invite you, today, this hour, this moment, to simply decide,
    decide to live a blessed life beyond fear.
    Then witness just how magical your life can become.

Open *OK*

Great thread to explore! A lot comes up for me. Although I'm aware I still feel fear at times, I also realize I've created and co-created fearful situations since the day I was born and have somehow managed to "JUST DO IT" over and over again throughout my life despite many challenges. So I wanna say, "You IS awesome, girl!" haha!

Not that I don't have more fear to bust through, but given my past record, I know I'll keep doin' it! I am becoming more conscious of truly empowering myself in the very moment of disempowerment, choosing love over fear. This is important since I tend to suppress through fear and then over-react from pent-up frustration and anger.

A huge challenge for me right now is becoming too impulsive and hot-headed due to the powerful upsurge of warrior energy I feel, partly fueled by anger about injustice of any sort but also by what feels right and aligned. It's like I lose all fear of any consequences but don't take the time to 'chill' and center myself before reacting. It's a tricky one since I could easily get lost in dissecting what could go wrong if I wait too long to honour my will to act. I'm feeling a bit lost on this one lately so welcome any insights others may have. I'm feeling there are blind spots I'm not seeing. I relate to your comments about the shadow identity, Open, and feel that I'm perhaps attaching to fixed ways of being, to roles that feel noble, good, and right but are off in subtle, ego-based ways. I shared with you a dream I had a while back about riding a motorcycle and agreeing to take on a passenger. You recommended I consider contemplating the shadow identity, the sidecar passenger that you explore in one of your books.

Of note, I took a quick quiz today on Jungian Archetypes and came out as THE REBEL. Included in the description was a caution to reign in my rebel nature. I heard myself say, "Fuck that!" Clearly, I have work to do. :)

x Cathy

Wow Open the challenge you posted really stirs something up inside of me. This morning the Fear is overwhelming again. Breaking me down, so much confusion, pain and sadness. Seems like there will be no end to it. I am not sure I am turning into it enough but I am sure I have created it so there is not an option to not go into it. I dragged myself to the gym this morning and went to a cycling class. The music really spoke to me and I was able to shift something inside. It helped me to see the separate part of me that is lost in the fear and can't function to an upwelling of authentic internal powerful will and the desire to push on. During the class I was remembering a time in middle school where I ran track. I always wanted to be a fast runner but sprinting was not what I was good at no matter how hard I tried to go fast. I was much better at endurance, remembering the feeling when I would want to give up and then something would shift inside and I would get a second wind allowing me to push through and keep going. That is the feeling that was arising in me. I felt to share a couple of songs that the teacher played which really spoke to me. For all of you out there reading that are facing challenges right now and perhaps some inspiration to push through. Thanks for the space to share.

Kim

https://video.search.yahoo.com/search/video?fr=yfp-t-s&p=fall+out+boy+p…

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u9Dg-g7t2l4

I love the Openhand Challenge Open. This is something I have really been working on.Letting go. Letting go of just about everything.....and wondering what is there to hold on to ?

Here is a poem that speaks directly to the possibility of letting go.

Pause…Take a Breath…Read…See What Arises

She let go
She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.
She let go of the fear.
She let go of the judgments.
She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head.
She let go of the committee of indecision within her.
She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons.
Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry,
she just let go.
She didn’t ask anyone for advice.
She didn’t read a book on how to let go.
She didn’t search the scriptures.
She just let go.
She let go of all of the memories that held her back.
She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.
She let go of the planning and all of the calculations
about how to do it just right.
She didn’t promise to let go.
She didn’t journal about it.
She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer.
She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper.
She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope.
She just let go.
She didn’t analyze whether she should let go.
She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter.
She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment.
She didn’t call the prayer line.
She didn’t utter one word.
She just let go.
No one was around when it happened.
There was no applause or congratulations.
No one thanked her or praised her.
No one noticed a thing.
Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.
There was no effort.
There was no struggle.
It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad.
It was what it was, and it is just that.
In the space of letting go, she let it all be.
A small smile came over her face.
A light breeze blew through her.
And the sun and the moon shone
forevermore …

~ Reverend Safire Rose

Namaste.
With Love
Tess

Hi Everyone - I felt to share this today, because I've sensed fear arising in the field of some of the shifts in the field that are taking place. There is a loving and supportive space here for people to explore what comes up. So please do explore your perspective on fear and how best you find to deal with it?

Wishing you well

Open Heart

I have struggled through a lifetime of fears and am very intolerant of anyone who allows fear to control their actions.  Now I see that this is a direct message from my higher self to stop and look at the places where fear still controls my actions.  Wow!  This is a great step for me to take.  Just recently I've allowed my fear of upsetting another to control my true reaction and I avoided and capitulated.  There are 3 people in my life I've done this to/with in just the past few weeks.  Unable to see this clearly until now!  Thank you so much!!  

Very timely for me too Open. Thank you. 

Last Thursday night I suddenly began experiencing sharp heart pain in my chest. For three hours it came in waves.  I had never experienced symptoms like that before and was worried I could be having an actual heart attack. My father’s side does have that history. Almost went to the hospital, but my gut told me it was heartburn related to the fact that I’d fasted for the last 24 hours and then went nuts on dinner earlier that night. Reveling in the physicality indeed.

Many lessons learned from spending those three hours in fear of dying of a heart attack - breathing deeply and allowing myself to feel as much as possible, kissing my sleeping daughter for what felt like the last time, feeling immense shame for leaving my wife and family without a father, feeling angry at my own lack of control, feeling like I wasn’t ready to die and hadn’t completed the “mission,” whatever that is.  I can feel the same tightness in my chest again now..

The next day I ate mindfully and in balance. But that night at the exact same time of the evening, this time my lips, tongue, and throat began to swell up!  I haven’t ever experienced an allergic food reaction, but for some reason avocado did it.  An antihistamine brought it back down after 45 minutes - but it was another 45 minutes experiencing the same feelings of the night before. This time constricted breath instead of constricted heart.

(here I continue to sit with constricted chest and lump in throat and tension in solar plexus writing this)..

I didn’t find alone time for a couple days and was simmering with anger internally over the weekend.  Contained it as much as I could in my daily interactions.  Finally allowed myself to go into the feelings of both experiences yesterday — and it was like a scene out of The Exorcist. Like a spitting writhing consciousness in me who was me simultaneously spitting obscenities and grief and rage. A primal upwelling of “GET OUT” emerged and I felt energy in my lower back followed by calm.

Drawn to your shower meditation and visualizing the density washing down out of my feet.  The Bell Chant helped me let go some as well. A couple of the bell peals froze me in what felt like animated stillness.

My heart is so heavy as I type this and there is still much rage here. I’m scared it will consume me.  It feels like father figure energy distorted into extreme consumption. Rape.  A crow just cawed at me. Yup.

I keep getting this image from The Matrix where Agent Smith goes, “They’re not out yet.”

Thanks for holding the space. I’ll continue to apply these tools.

 

 

Heyas all!

I love this topic, its something I notice alot in people everywhere and all I got to say to it is, just dont... dont deny it, dont ignore it, just see it as it really is.

Here is what I do - Every time I sense it in myself I just say hrmmm - what are you, why are you, how are you, what do I have to learn within this very moment to understand what I need to understand about it or me for me.

I hesitate to say  - but even like you Paul, I too have seen horrible disfigured faces that arise within my own mind and to that face I just gently say hello and listen however I can. Because more often than naught, its just me needing to know something I don't know.

I'll tell yall a little story that happened to me - I was standing in my kitchen one day, not alone and I heard someone yelling, quite literal loud yelling out of my name..Sure it made my heart beat faster, my blood ran a little colder, my breathing slow to a crawl and my senses heightened. I asked my company if they could hear anything and to which all replied a joke.. Like sure, you just talked, I heard you ask a question.

I did not turn away, run or otherwise halt my pathway, I ran straight towards whatever was calling my name and in the end I found myself and a whole lot of just wow, things :)

Now I have had some extreme supernatural experiences in my life and that one right there is one of my most favorite!

Wyndè

Thanks for your sharings folks Heart

Paula - glad to see you working through.

Paul you said...

Many lessons learned from spending those three hours in fear of dying of a heart attack - breathing deeply and allowing myself to feel as much as possible.

Yes I think it's essential to understand that fear does create powerful physical symptoms like this. But if we go right into the heart of it, as you did, then you'll unwind the effects and expand through. Awesome!

Love your little story Wyndè OK Hand Sign