You decide who you are. And forget not all the little things. How do you chose to be spoken to? Do you choose to let others judge you as something less than you are? And remember, we need to expand the meaning of 'judgment'. It's also an expectation that you should, and will, behave in a particular way. Do you allow yourself to conform? Or can you find the courage to hold the space open so that totally authentic and spontaneous "you" can arise. You are indeed awesome. But you have to keep choosing it. Then you simply make the landscape respect you.