What often keeps people tight in the box and resisting the power of transformation on the spiritual path is the need for external validation of some kind. The requirement for friends or family, for example, to respect the new you you're unfolding into. If they're not evolving as quickly as you, unsupportive or negative feedback can be severely limiting. Where does this need for this validation come from? Most importantly, how can we move beyond it...
Distortions of the Soul
Firstly, it's essential to explore the nature of distortions - old behaviour patterns we wish to either drop or realign. From the Openhand perspective, a distortion is a distorted expression of soul - because everything begins originally in the source of truth. But the soul got attached, within some emotive physical situation, the need to be loved for example, and then got fragmented into it.
You could consider the soul as a stream flowing down a mountain side. It passes over a boulder, which creates an eddy current in the flow. This then draws in debris, which constantly spins around in the eddy current. It's a good metaphor of repetitive and stuck behavioural patterns becoming toxic and restrictive.
The crucial thing to realise, is that the eddy current originally came from truth, and contains truth within it - specifically the inherent nature of the stream. Likewise, the soul getting stuck in distortion. And until you realise and embrace that truth, then the distortion will not simply melt away. At the risk of mixing metaphors, you can't simply throw the baby out with the bathwater. Or, you could try just dropping the hot coals, but if you haven't processed out your reaction to the heat, you're simply going to remanifest similar cycles just with different circumstances. Let's figure out the truth and express it, then work to let go of the attachment within it. In which case, the eddy current will unravel of its own accord. There is no longer anything anchoring it.
Let's explore the example of validation to illuminate what I'm saying.
Reflective Feedback Loops of the Soul
When the soul expresses its authentic nature, then it's going to shape the environment around it. That's because the Unity Consciousness, by the Law of Attraction, crystallises the quantum field. Reality takes shape around what you're being. This is where reflective signs and synchronicity click in around you - and you get the affirmation of aligned creative action. In fact the soul is watching for these clicking synchronicities as a means of attuning and aligning itself. It's an inherent attenuation mechanism.
And this is exactly where the need for validation distorts from. Yes, it's right to look for the reflective feedback loop. However, if you're needing that from a particular person or group of friends, now you - the ego - are distorting the flow and creating a limiting eddy current around what you're indavertantly needing the flow to be and how you want it to reflect.
The answer is to detach from the need for a specific reflection. Instead, to allow active attention to guide you to the right multidimensional reflections. Whether it be in signs and numerology, the movement of clouds in the heavens or the call of a bird. Everything clicks in when you're in the truth.
A Parting of the Waves
What we've got to do is break the rigidity in our relationships - that you need a particular person to agree with the path of your calling and how you feel to now be. You're constantly evolving, which can be tremendously threatening to those still stuck in the old rut. They'll want to shoot you down to justify their own limitation. And it's often those closest to you that feel most threatened. It's often the most subtle and quiet judgments that are most limiting - the soft encouragements to stay comfortable on the sofa.
These are the ties you've most got to challenge and break. I'm not saying that all close relationships need to end - I'm saying that essential space must be created within them, so that you can grow and express new aspects of yourself. If those around you don't support or agree, so be it. Either they will come to change in the dynamic with you or there'll need to be a parting of the waves.
Planting your Soul in the right Soil
It's crucial for you to be you. And to fearlessly express that - then to watch for the reflective feedback loops from the Universe. Importantly though, these don't come from where you expect they will. The Universe is always spontaneous - you'll have to apply the freedom of active attention to guide you. Then you'll create the most amazing reflective feedback loops around you. And from these, simply by honouring them, you'll start to weave a more harmonious landscape for yourself. One that's constantly evolving and growing with your soul.
It will plant you in the right soil to enjoy the fruits of your labour!
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