How to Find Lasting Contentment and Fulfillment in a World of Change?

Submitted by Open on Mon, 07/16/2018 - 05:43

The pace of change is hotting up across our planet day by day. If it's not the system constantly introducing new ways to occupy oneself, new distractions to entertain or enslave, new gadgets and widgets that we simply must have, then there's The Shift itself, which is pulling at the very bedrock of our reality. To add to the complexity, the soul is constantly looking for new expression and evolved ways of being. So in this cauldron of profound change, how might we find lasting contentment and fulfillment? It's a tricky balancing act, but there is certainly a way, providing we focus on some key essentials:

The matrix is founded on ancient light

As many people awaken, there's the thoroughly understandable desire to abandon the matrix, to pull away from the enslavement of society and its nose-to-the-grindstone compulsion. But the path is not as simple as that. As we awaken we may castigate the matrix, but it only exists at all, and is so successful, because it is founded on some form of truth - an ancient light - a reality construct designed for people to explore karmic attachment based on some form of distortion of truth.

Even in the matrix itself, you can still find light. Music and entertainment for example, that encourage people to unleash more of themselves; the internet and social media, that connect people on a platform of technology. Crucially, the soul itself is continually looking for ways to express The One, and to deny this, would be to suppress our authentic expression, leading ultimately to frustration and lack of fulfillment.

So in the complex dynamic of the matrix, how do you find true contentment?

Exploring the Sense of Satisfaction

Firstly, lasting contentment doesn't arise from something we consume or acquire. Although you can gain temporary fulfillment. Take food for example, often people in society eat even though they're not necessarily hungry. What often fuels the 'hunger', is a craving for some sense of satisfaction, or else there's emotional eating to deaden discomfort with life itself. Think about it, in any given 24hrs, most people don't actually eat for that long, yet the satisfaction comes from consuming and feeling filled afterwards (essentially we're placating the Pain of's more on breaking through that).

But this is not true fulfillment, because it depends on the need for something physical to make one feel whole. And mostly, it's not allowing the soul itself to be fully expressed, rather it is mostly dampened by the effect (the exception would be when we're consciously eating aligned foods that unleash soul).

Fasting is a highly illuminating way to explore this, because you confront the craving that makes you want to consume, and what happens when you don't. The craving binds people in emotionally, mentally and physically. But with commitment and persistence, you can relatively straightforwardly break down the cravings - it happens by penetrating deep into the feelings with awareness, challenging the very myth that somehow these feelings must be placated. Essentially you transform the feeling into something more aligned. Emptiness becomes the magic of potential for example, or a sense of lightness and aliveness.
Check out this Openhand Thread on the Power of Fasting to bring you Alive

The Illusion of physical/emotional fulfillment

A good way to challenge the way we enslave ourselves through emotional/physical/mental neediness, is through ongoing intermittent fasting, where you fast for up to 18 hours every day. It gives the body time to regenerate internally, but essentially, it also gives you the chance to confront cravings and break them down by bringing full awareness into them. Remember, these cravings are not just about the idea of needing physical sustenance, but also simply being fulfilled and satisfied emotionally, physically and mentally.

My experience is that the craving does form from an underlying truth - the expression completing internally back at the source, which is the cycle of kundalini. However this energy gets channeled into a physical, emotional, mental attachment in the lower densities instead. The key is to break through these diversions as they arise so that the released soul consciousness may once more return to the source within.

Here is a major clue then to true and lasting fulfillment: it doesn't happen by feeding craving, but it most certainly does when we strip away all that gets in the way of the pure presence of The One. In fact any need of craving become powerful doorways to the One - you just have to confront and soften into them, rather than placating them. What you start to find, is that as you burst the myth of what you thought you needed, the sense of fulfillment and satisfaction starts to build of its own accord.

Full Attentiveness to the Moment

Take boredom for example. People constantly do things so as to avoid boredom. But boredom is only lack of full attentiveness to the moment. The condition of boredom depends on ones unconscious adherence to a falsehood - that of existence of linear time, and then an enslavement by it. How can you be truly bored, if you're fully engaged in the one moment of now, where all time ceases? 

I do a great deal of travelling with the Openhand work, which means a lot of long haul flights. But rather than trying to distract myself through the flights with movies and entertainment, most of the time I'll meditate through them, exploring deep into my feelings, breaking down time itself, and constantly penetrating into the one moment of now. 13 hour flights disappear in a flash!

So for me, fulfillment comes not by what I consume into my consciousness, but actually by taking things out. In fact what I find, is that the more I empty out, the more fulfilled I become.

Crucially what happens, is you tend to find joy and fulfillment in the simple things of life, because you're intimately enagged in the moment (and curcially, without being attached to it)...

The Soul is Yearning to Express

But that's not the end of the story. The complication is that the soul yearns to express. And especially where the soul is strongly expressive, if there's some kind of denial or suppression of it, then you'll struggle to find true contentment.

The soul is creative, passionate, loving and caring. And these kinds of qualities will simply arise from the condition of the One within you. Take a look at the Universe, and nature all around you: is it not constantly expressing itself? And to deny the incredible Shift that is taking place all around us, would be to deny the essential story of life itself.

The soul brings into being the manifestation of the One's creative expression. Put simply, you are here to create and express on behalf of the One. So you'll naturally be drawn into creative expressions - hence the kind of work you find yourself drawn to. Thus the matrix is built on creating ever new adaptations and evolutions. The problem comes, when the soul gets owned by what it is trying to create - in other words, where ego crystallises around what we're creating.

Essential Balance

Here's where we need to find an essential balance:

to be engaged in creative action, yes; to be deeply passionate about what we do in life, yes; to commit, with persistence and perseverance, but crucially, to be soft and open enough not to be attached to any particular outcome. This in itself is a highly illuminating and enlightening practice - it's constantly walking the blade edge of life: in it, but not of it.

If you practice this level of Enlightenment, what you ultimately find, is that it becomes not about the result or outcome of the expressive act, but rather the expression itself. You create, write, paint, sing, dance, write blogs and vlogs, but you do it simply for the sake of it, not for the outcome. It does require a great deal of inner attentiveness, to unpack and unravel the tightness of attachment. But as you work at it, you discover another essential truth...

that contentment and fulfillment in the flowing action of the soul, becomes about the growth and emergence of soul itself. The reason this becomes so fulfilling, is because there's constantly the possibility to express soul, and to constantly align soul - to evolve it. When you switch to this perspective, you find yourself constantly the winner!

5 Steps to a constant state of being filled up!

Change of self then is another crucial aspect to fulfillment. Yes, it's a paradox: accepting the perfection of yourself as you are right now, but from that, accepting the challenge that you can find an even more evolved way of being and expressing. The key to this balancing act, is recognising that you don't evolve the soul by efforting, but rather through attentiveness and alertness. As you bring increasing awareness to your creative expression, you will naturally find ways of unleashing more aligned soul.

So, to put it succinctly then, true contentment arises by surrendering into the One, which tends to happen not when you fill up, but empty out. From that place, lasting fulfillment happens by constantly bringing attentiveness and alertness to your creative expression in life and allowing that to evolve naturally.

In conclusion, here are five key considerations that lead to a content yet fulfilled life...

  1. find true contentment more by what you confront inwardly and take away
  2. allow yourself to fully express
  3. commit to creativity, but constantly let go of the need for an outcome
  4. bring full attentiveness and alertness to the moment
  5. accept the perfection of who you are, yet constantly evolve more aligned expression

You find yourself in a constant state of being filled up!

In loving support

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How do we teach and comfort our little ones....the ones born, and especially conceived and born after December 2012?   My little 5 year old, so awake, so compassionate, is having a terrible time adjusting to this world.  I watch him suffer the insults, with tears and yet with resolve to pursue the friendships.  I can tell you, in a country with cruelty in the White House that gives permission to the cruelty that has been unleashed in so many of the citizens and has created an atmosphere of terror, that my navigating trembles with the suffering of these children.  If their parents are still deep in the Matrix of 3rd D, then the problems do not exist as long as they conform to the Matrix gone awry.  But for those of us who are navigating into 4th and 5th Ds, conformity is choking them and many, like my 5 year old grandson are becoming chronically ill.  How do we ease the pain, or do we?  


Hi Sandra - I really feel for you and know from personal experience just how challenging it can be helping conscious kids find a way through life here on Earth right now. Heart 

Firstly, what I would say to you is, that they are here to help change the frequency as the earth shifts. But that's not an easy process, and neither did they choose one. This is about mastery of their own souls too. So at a soul level, they chose the circumstances they're facing - we must work to trust in that, and that the soul will find a way.

Many things do indeed look pretty dense and dark right now, like in the US for example, but I can see the light breaking through strongly, and the old karmic construct is beginning to break down. Just work to have patience in the process - it needs to be a steady transformation, not a chaotic one.

The best thing we can do, in helping youngsters and others too, is to keep remembering the light inside and keep shining. That will remind them - they'll see it in your eyes and feel it in your vibe. We definitely have to work past anxiety and fear to be the best example possible.

Actually, with the right support and guidance, the kids are very resilient and come through admirably. I was greatly heartwarmed by the story of the young Tai football team, stuck underground in a water filled cave for 10 days, being looked after by their young monk coach. How inspiring....
5D Shift: Heroes and Heroines...You'll be at the Right Time and Place

Sending much love and support

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I felt to draw attention to this article again today (How to Find Lasting Contentment and Fulfillment in a World of Change? - scroll to the top) to remind people to always find balance in your journey of unfolding. Times are changing quickly now in all ways, and there's a strong impetus to evolve. But this must also be balanced by being completely accepting of oneself with all distortions. Remember, perfection is an unattainable goal in the Universe of the relative.

Personally I consider harmony and disharmony in my life as folds in the same garment, two sides of the same coin. I work to count the blessings of the harmony I have found and continue to find. But from that place, I search out the disharmony that might be disrupting natural flow. How might I be blocking that?

So it's a balance of both. Be committed to the inquiry yes. But not completely lost in the inquiry!

I wish you all well.

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Hi all,

I feel an urge toward some kind of greater potential and yet I feel constantly too slow for it. Perhaps I am sensing that I am behind the flow. Recently, I have felt a pull toward the soil, compost, community...that takes me into research and then business ideas that excite me but feel too big for me to tackle. I am catching myself running to the outcome of the exploration - which brings on a general paralysis.

I have been working on just holding the sense of it more open and to see what I feel - what comes in relation to the ideas I am having.  I dreamt last night that a man was offering to teach me to hunt...this struck me. What does it mean to be a hunter? I mean other than killing something? It takes certain qualities ....maybe courage, definitely patience, focus, attentiveness and a willingness to deal with the more unpalatable qualities of life.  I find it incredibly hard to stay focused on one thing - one direction...perhaps it doesn't suit me to be so singularly focused externally - however I don't see how anything can happen without at least some maintenance of inner focus on the arising impulses and a commitment to follow them. Maybe the commitment brings up fear and the bouncing is the distraction from it.

I feel the fear of unfulfillment so strongly - which is funny because I already feel unfulfilled - I suppose it's the unease with that never changing. I get that this seems to place the fulfillment outside of myself. Yet, it feels different ...maybe I am fooling myself. But - it feels like this tension between needing nothing and the urge to express. Everything seems to be moving so fast. I marvel at how some seem to be creatively on fire - amazing at landing things in a way that supports themselves. If it was only about creativity and expression I could relax and let it flow - but the sense that it all seems to have to be put up for exchange just shuts me down. A part of me knows that it IS about the creative expression but part of me is hooked into the 3D valuation. I know that the confrontation of it is in following the impulse and working through the fears and attachments. The sense of having no focus, motivation or drive is also a big one that frustrates me...I wonder at how anyone can find the will to bring things into the world at the moment. I seem to only be able to imagine them and then lose steam. 

Lots of stuff floating around here...sorting it through sharing...With love, Jen

Hi Jen - great that your shared so openly. As someone given to create out there, I can certainly identify a lot with what you feel. Commitment is absolutely necessary to get anything done, but then there's the risk of identification - a double edged sword.

A think the quality of the 'hunter' which you could transform into something more 'spiritual' would be 'entrepreneur', which comes from the ray 7. So I'd suggest closely comptemplating the qualities of the entrepreneur. Above all there's enthusiasm and an expectancy that somehow things will work out. But this doesn't come from things always working out! Any entrepreneur will tell you it's about allowing yourself to fail, but then get up again with the same level of enthusiasm. I like the way Denzel Washington describes it - to fall forwards. Actually what I've found is that success comes from a progressive process of failure. Yet having the gumption to let go and approach the next opportunity with the same level of commitment and enthusiasm.

What's helped me balance the paradox, is that I look for the magic in the creating process. Like on the last video I knew the tide was coming in and I had minimal time, but that seemed appropriate - it added an increased sense of urgency. And then as I started, the dog running out into the waves at the appropriate moment - this kind of thing is pure magic when you experience it. So I commit fully to the process of creating something, yet really what's happening is that I'm working to dance with the magic of the moment. It might come to fruition, it might not. But at least I learn, evolve and grow in the process and have fun too. And what I've found is that it does lead to creative 'success' - in terms of a recognisable crystallisation of the energy.

Also you have to let go of the need for any kind of recognition or positive feedback from people around you. If you're happy with the 'product' and if somehow the universe reflects that back to you, then that's good enough. After that, if someone else benefits, then that's the bonus, the cherry on the cake so to speak.

So I'd say to anyone in the creative process, really examine what's your why? Why are you doing it. If it's about creative expression, learning, evolving and growing, you're sure to succeed every time. And, you may just find you start to get a productive physical outcome too.

Enthusiasm is a major key, so as Steve Jobs said, you have to love what you do.
Find what you love, then keep doing it!

With loving support

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You’re definitely not alone. I’m right there with you exploring the same creative themes lately. In fact, you and Open’s exchange stimulated a lot of forward progress on what my next steps are - and as my contemplation was going on I happened to be looking at the ceiling fan and my jaw dropped at the word HUNTER staring back at me. Apparently Hunter is an appliance brand. :)

I wanted to let you know that just your creative process of sorting and sharing on here is ALREADY benefiting someone else. 


In reply to by Eric.

Hi Eric!

Thanks so much for the sharing! It's always nice to hear that others are exploring similarly - meeting the challenges that come up and tuning into their next step. Sometimes I feel so much doubt that the next step will reveal...I will feel a bit of a victim - all abandoned and blind =). Then something does show up and I am reminded of how magically interconnected things can feel and be. 

So funny that you looked up at your fan and saw the same word!! How wild! It also provides a little feedback being seen by my "fan" the hunter and a wink to "applying" ourselves. lol!

Thanks for reminding me of how impactful we all are when we aren't trying or needing to be =)!! I would also love to hear more about your creative endeavors!

With love,


Thanks so much for the helpful feedback Open! 

The entrepreneurial energy has been beckoning me Divinicus I was speaking with Rich about how the concept of being an entrepreneur feels heavy - weighted with obligation. And YET, I feel like that is a judgement of the expression. I feel excitement and enthusiasm around creating something that feeds both the creative yearning and is in service to the community and I feel the urging on to break through the fears, concepts and attachments around this all.

Today was pure magic too!! I get up early to volunteer at a local community farm...and was met by the exact energy of this "Hunter"/Entrepreneur...I got a HUGE taste of the energy we are speaking of! This guy was ON FIRE with ideas IN ACTION...literally the first 5 words he said to me were about the transformation of the farm from one farmer to multiple entrepreneurs benefiting and taking ownership of their own projects with the farm as a vehicle for their endeavors! WHAT!!?? I was shocked and excited to hear this!! What I noticed about him was that he didn't have to know everything before he starts...he jumps in and aligns with others who have experience. AND, he doesn't get stuck in the consumption of information - he is on the ground giving it a try and adapting as he goes. It's a collaborative learning and growing experience and that really speaks to me. 

I am excited to get involved and see how I can contribute, and how this amazing place can be a vehicle for this creativity. My struggles with any of this is the feeling of getting stuck, obligated, bored...which are all experiences rooted in rigidity and routine - old bad tastes in my mouth from past experiences with jobs and all efforts to create security/safety.  Flowing from a place of inspiration - and keeping an eye on how that is evolving is where my energy wants to go. So great to experience the synchronicity around this all and how it does of course require my "showing up" as well!!